Its all about taking the right approach

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There was this great example to go with this story but I think Ive made enough narcissistic posts lately so I´ll try to keep this short and simple.

1st-Dont try to force a conversation. There are plenty of reasons why they may not want to talk with you at a determinate moment, having to keep talking to you isnt going to make you look better to their eyes and they can get back to you once they are free(you can have a similar issue and you arent expect to keep your life on hold while they are unable to talk to you)

2nd- Find something that they may be interested on. My friend p has known L for over a year, I met L a few months ago. Last month p asked me for advice on how to approach her because he had been trying to have a deep convo with her for a while and I just did it. I told him she carries a high end dslr to most events, I asked her a couple of things about what lenses she had and she did most of the talking, find out something else she loves or ask her about photography again under a good pretext.

3rd - Dont obsess about people you want to approach, if you do dont show it to others.Last night p started a fb chat about someone that told him that the only reason he wanted to hang out with L so much (he isnt afraid of showing it) is because L is a girl. He then went on to deny the accusation... usually we have long talks where we disagree. Yesterday I told him that bringing her up on a convo with other people every few minutes could easily lead to other people mistaking the nature of hiss feelings and he agreed that he needed to work on that.

4th there is no such a thing as a perfect conversation opener. You want to start a conversation with someone you dont know?, just go along with the first thing that pops into your head and hope for the best.
A week ago a few friends and I were on the street and a very drunk 50 year old female approached us. Did she have a brilliant opener? , no the most overused one. did we talk to her? we had nothing better to do and it was sort of nice to see that she was the one doing the hard work so we spent about 30 minutes talking to her(I started thinking it was creepy and said we had stuff to do)

Feel free to do some constructive critique/add your own advice

Thats pretty much what ive kept to do. I feel its the proper way to treat women and also is more likelyto get them to know me for me and not some bs act. Cant say its worked out well but its what i have stuck to

That has the risk of ending up with something like "I pick up roadkills and take them home. Want to see pictures of my collection?"


Maybe we should start a list of "10 things you shouldn't do when..."

(In case you're wondering, no, I don't do that, I just remembered a couple of things from MAD Magazine and Kesslers Knigge...)