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Making a mix CD? What on Earth is the big deal with it? How the heck does it show a persons feelings for the other? I just don't get it. My ladyfriend and housemate has spent several days making a mix CD for a boy she has a crush on, and I just don't get it, it at all. Don't even ask me about how I feel about her "crush" on the boy. It's frustrating.

Its like a cat bringing you a mouse, or a cave man bringing you some meat?

I guess the lyrics in some songs, go a little way to expressing how you feel about someone. Sometimes it can be hard to verbalise deep emotions. Some lyrics do it in a more profound way. Plus, it almost feels like you're giving a small part of yourself, when you share music which mean a lot personally to you.

i read somewhere that individuals with a high musical compatibility are likely to be more inclined to like each other romantically. it was a proper scientific study but as of yet i cannot find it. sorry

to me it kind of makes sense but i was surprised to read it still.

I think it also shows that you care for the other person. I personally like to make things and do things for my GF (not all the time) and i think it is that desire feel needed or appreciated for things you can do.

Your gonna like my music or we got nothing going on?

Musical taste compatibility is one of those big deal things.. as in, if you hate each others music, you're less likely to get along, as it's generally very important to people. Not to say that you can't date if you have differing tastes, it's just likely for it to be a big factor.

Often the lyrics in the song, or the mood created by it, can convey the feelings of person making the mix CD to the person they'll give it to. Other times, it's just a way to show the other person that you enjoy similar things. I know I like a guy more if he can talk music with me, and trade songs that I haven't heard before and enjoy.

As has been said, the songs can show your feelings, and choosing songs the other person likes shows you care about them and pay attention to their tastes.

Do you like my music? You dont? boo hoo boo hoo leave me alone you creep!

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Mix CD / Tape is the #1 thing that girls dig when starting or getting into a relationship.

Why? Because it shows you listen and pay attention to her (attention whores love that kind of stuff).

No, don't make a mix CD of YOUR favorite tunes, that's an epic failure. You make one of HER favorite tunes.

Easy way? Check out her itunes account and see what is the most listened too. Throw it into Pandora and see what strikes your fancy. Mix up the two and make two copies. One with JUST her stuff, and another with a mix of what she likes and you found interesting.

i've never liked getting mixtapes (man i am old. not too many CDs back then), because they would be filled with music i didn't like, or songs that were supposed to define Me or Us or whatever. i am too stuck in my own musical tastes to appreciate it.

my husband and i had a musical taste overlap of exactly one song, and that song became our song by default (Tainted Love by Soft Cell).

That song was number one in the charts when i was born....

So yeah.... I think i just emphasised your getting old

Mix CD show consideration and thought. That you thought of/paid attention enough to a person to know what they like and/or find appropriate songs.
Instead of giving something that costs a lot - which can get really awkward with the other person feeling pressed to reciprocate - you give something that says "thinking of you - a lot". And there's the crux of it. You really need to already be involved or have a really tight friendship to give this gift. Otherwise it's stalkey and/or just very emotionally self-destructive. Your friend sounds like she's doing something that is very typical for young women before we're slammed in the head with reality - wearing her heart on her sleeve.