"Do you have a gf?"

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Well, yesterday a new friend of mine asked me this question out of the blue. I said I was single, then I asked her why she asked that question and she said that she just wanted to know. What does this mean?

Did she genuinely seem curious about it? And interested?

Or was it a throwaway line/general chit-chat kinda line?

Watch for her body language. How much attention she gives you etc.


KnucklesUK.

Maybe she wanted to rub it in or maybe she wants to "get closer" to you. Did you ask her if she would like a boy friend?

Sometimes girls ask that if they want to ask you out. I can't judge what the girl in your case meant because I don't know about you two.

Is she single?

I think it depends on the context. It could be just a friendly, getting to know you question or it could be a testing the water question to see if there is a chance for her.

Or pure sarcasm.

Or people have been talking about you behind your back and they're not sure about something.

If asked outside of high school, this is one of the questions NTs ask that's actually an information request. (Outside of journalism, most questions NTs ask are meant to influence emotions, rather than gather facts.) In high school, on the other hand, it's only asked when the expected answer is "no", thus making you feel ashamed of not having one.

Well, she asked me the question during a lecture. That is the reason why it was strange to me. We have the same lectures but had never talked before this week. I'm trying not to get my hopes up.

Is SHE single? because the answer of this question is a turning point.

I see you are 25 so that is good. In high school like Aspie1 says, this question is used to make you look stupid. At 25 and in college she is most likely interested in you as more than a friend. Next time you see her ask if she has a boyfriend.

Aspie1 - I agree with your post. I would never think of asking anyone about their relationship status (wouldn't it become obvious over time?) and I can't imagine why my friends and relatives always seem to ask "how's your love life?" But it is something that people want to know and if they discover that the person is single, they somehow feel sorry for their single friend of relative. This misplaced sympathy is not really appreciated.

That being said, the girl may have asked you in order to determine whether you would be available for her. But you won't know that unless you ask her out.

I don't know if she's single or not. We are going on an field trip and we'll probably be working together for the next week or so. Thanks for the advice!

If she's a friend - Then it can mean 2 things. That she's interested or that she's just curious.

If you barely know her - It's more likely that she's interested.

I barely know her. I'll try to find out what her intentions are.