Men: How important is ______ to you?

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Since there was a thread that dealt with how important women consider certain attributes in a guy, I thought it would be only fair that we have a similar thread for the guys to list the importance of things in a female partner.

And LGBT people can also feel free to rate the attributes as well.

Here are my rankings:

Being employed: 7
Quality of job: 7
Prospects for future advancement: 7
Having a car: 10
Quality of car: 5
Hair style: 1
Size of living accommodations: 1
Good neighborhood: 3
Nice furniture: 1
Organized, clean home: 1
Muscle tone: 1
Skin: 1
Smile: 1
Facial Hair (either way): 1
Clothing style: 1
Body shape: 6
Shared interests: 10
Sensitivity: 10
Intelligence: 8
Effort: need a better definition
Sense of humor: 10
Confidence: need a better definition
Courage: 8
Giving attention: 10
Sexual prowess: 10, as soon as I can GET OFF THE FREAKIN PAXIL!! !
Flirtation: 10
Romantic behavior: 10
Persistence: 10
Respectfulness: 10
Playfulness: 10
Spontaneity: 6
Forethought: need a better definition
Assertiveness: 10
Aggressiveness: 1
Submissiveness: 1
Flattery: 10
Openness/Sharing: 10
Intensity: need a better definition
Light-heartedness: 10
Carefulness: 5
Fearlessness: 10

Last edited by Tim_Tex on 27 Sep 2010, 11:12 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I'll bite.

• Being employed: It beats being unemployed, and on dating sites, sometimes you get the impression that single mothers and unemployed women are more looking for a paycheck than anything else.
• Quality of job: This doesn't matter much to me.
• Prospects for future advancement: Again, this isn't especially important.
• Having a car: In St. Louis, having a car is pretty much a necessity.
• Quality of car: Not very important.
• Hair style: If it looks pretty on her
• Size of living accommodations: If it gets serious, she may eventually be able to move in with me
• Good neighborhood: I live in a good but somewhat boring neighborhood lacking in young singles.
• Nice furniture: Don't care
• Organized, clean home: Don't care
• Muscle tone: If she's a bodybuilder, that's a turn-off to me.
• Skin: Smooth, clean skin is an obvious plus.
• Smile: A sexy smile is nice.
• Facial Hair (either way): No facial hair please.
• Clothing style: Whatever looks sexy on her.
• Body shape: Thin, athletic. I don't go for BBWs.
• Shared interests: Some shared interests help, but there's something to be said for a woman who helps you branch out into new things too.
• Sensitivity: I wouldn't want to date a callous psychopath.
• Intelligence: She doesn't have to be a genius or even as smart as me, but if she's seriously dumb, that's a turn-off.
• Effort: Effort at what?
• Sense of humor: If she has a sense of humor, that's great, and if she'll laugh at my sometimes not so funny jokes, that's even better.
• Confidence: A woman who fundamentally does not believe in herself is a coward who may betray you.
• Courage: Moral courage is important.
• Giving attention: She should want to spend some time with me, of course.
• Sexual prowess: I like a sexy, sensual woman, so this would be great.
• Flirtation: If she wants to be flirty with me, that's fine.
• Romantic behavior: I'm all for the romance.
• Persistence: If she gives up on everything right away, that's not very sexy.
• Respectfulness: Mutual respect is important.
• Playfulness: Another plus.
• Spontaneity: Goes with playfulness.
• Forethought: If she can plan and also be spontaneous, depending on the situation, that's great.
• Assertiveness: I want a woman who feels comfortable being assertive with me: who can tell me her feelings, what she wants, etc. respectfully.
• Aggressiveness: Being sexually a little aggressive can be a turn-on; it's a nice change of pace.
• Submissiveness: Too much submissiveness is a turn-off.
• Flattery: Too much flattery raises suspicion.
• Openness/Sharing: She should be open with me.
• Intensity: Some passion is good.
• Light-heartedness: A plus.
• Carefulness: Recklessness is bad, but I don't like hyper-regimentation either.
• Fearlessness: It can be annoying when a woman freaks out over a tiny spider.

Good idea...

On a scale of 1-10:

Being employed: 2 (not important, but I wouldn't want a complete gold digger either)
Quality of job: 2 (see above)
Prospects for future advancement: 7 (see above)
Having a car: 4 (i don't want to be a chauffer, but it's not super important)
Quality of car: 2
Hair style: 4 (not terribly important as long as it's neat
Size of living accommodations: 1 (unless I'm planning on moving in with her, in which case its closer to 6)
Good neighborhood: 3 (unless I'm planning on moving in with her, in which case its closer to
Nice furniture: 2 (I'm probably going to abuse it anyway, so nice furniture might be a killer in the long run. I prefer rugged, sturdy furniture myself)
Organized, clean home: 2 (I can't complain, my room is a mess)
Muscle tone: 2
Skin: 4
Smile: 2 (as long as you can actually smile, especially when I do something for you, it doesn't matter what your smile looks like)
Facial Hair (either way): 7 (Okay, i have to be sexist here, but facial hair on a woman is a turn-off...)
Clothing style: 3
Body shape: 4 (As long as it's reasonably symmetrical (losing a limb due to an accident is okay though) and not more overweight than I am, it's fine)
Shared interests: 10 (This is the most important thing, I want to be able to share my life with a partner, and that means being able to enjoy things together)
Sensitivity: 5 (I know I can blurt out stupid things at times, and I would need someone who won't become instantly offended)
Intelligence: 7 (It would be nice to have an intelligent conversation every now and then, but not required)
Effort: 5 (All relationships should be equal work from both partners)
Sense of humor: 6 (It doesn't have to be the same humor that I have, but I need to know that the woman I'm with isn't an outright puritan)
Confidence: 8 (At the very least, someone who can at least accept me with all my inadequacies would be nice, and as I become more comfortable in the relationship, I'll become more confident as well)
Courage: 5 (see above)
Giving attention: 5 (If you meet me halfway, I can give you all the attention you would ever need)
Sexual prowess: 2 (I'm not that overly sexual, although the sex drive is there. Either way, I'll pretty much adapt to match your sexual needs. Just don't expect me to know everything from the get-go... I'm not that experienced, but I tend to learn quickly)
Flirtation: 4 (It's nice to know that I'm appreciated every once in a while)
Romantic behavior: 4 (see above)
Persistence: 5 (I'm fairly persistent myself, but I can't keep chasing someone if I don't know whether she likes me back or not)
Respectfulness: 9 (Very important, there has to be a respect between partners)
Playfulness: 5 (I don't want a puritan, but I don't want a chronic partier either)
Spontaneity: 1 (I'm not a fan of surprises, and I generally like to know what I'm going to do in any given day when that day starts)
Forethought: 5 (being able to plan for the long term is a big plus)
Assertiveness: 8 (It would be easier for me to not have to make all the moves)
Aggressiveness: 2 (While I like an assertive woman, I don't want to deal with an aggressive one)
Submissiveness: 2 (I don't want to feel like I'm crossing into abusive boyfriend/husband territory, as that would make me uncomfortable)
Flattery: 6 (It's nice if I know I'm appreciated)
Openness/Sharing: 10 (A true relationship cannot exist unless there is genuine trust of the highest level between the partners. Ideally I'd want a soulmate in the literal definition of the word: someone I can trust with my deepest feelings with)
Intensity: 9 (see above)
Light-heartedness: 6 (It doesn't have to be 100% serious all the time, I don't think anyone, myself included, could handle that)
Carefulness: 8 (I don't want to rush into anything without being ready for it)
Fearlessness: 7 (It's nice to know someone has my back at all times, and vice versa)

I'm sure my responses will be very different than most guys


Being employed~ Not important at all
Quality of job~ Not important at all
Prospects for future advancement~ Not important at all
Having a car~ Not important
Quality of car~ Not important at all
Hair style~ Not important
Size of living accommodations ~ Not important at all
Good neighborhood~ Not important
Nice furniture ~ Not important at all
Organized, clean home~ Not important at all
Muscle tone~ Not important
Skin~ Not important
Smile~ Not important at all; I am oblivious to facial expressions
Facial Hair (either way)~ Not really important
Clothing style~ Important that she is kind of conservative & NOT slu*ty
Body shape~ Not that important
Shared interests~ Not that important
Sensitivity~ The more the better
Intelligence~Not really important but I tend to be more attracted to women who others think are unintelligent/stupid/retorted but I don't see those women that way
Effort~ I think it takes effort on both people to make a relationship work but I rather be the one to compromise & put forth the effort when I can
Sense of humor~ It would be nice if she found everything funny but a sense of humor isn't really a requirement for me
Confidence~ I'm much more attracted to women who lack confidence
Courage~ Same as confidence
Giving attention~ I'll be nice if she's completely obsessed with me &never likes being away from me
Sexual prowess~ Sex isn't that important to me. Early on in the relationship I would not want it but if things were serious & it was romantic; a lot might be nice but never having sex would not bother me either
Flirtation~ I don't understand flirtation like most NTs do but if she flirted with me after we were somewhat serious it'll be nice but not in the beginning
Romantic behavior~ I do not want to have to buy lots of stuff, make stuff or plan out activities but other romantic things can be very nice. If she wants to be romantic that's nice
Persistence~ I'm not sure
Respectfulness~ Very important that she does not drink, do drugs, smoke & is not slu*ty but after that I'm not really that picky
Playfulness~ 1ce were serious it'll be nice but not in the beinging
Spontaneity~ I have OCD & like routines so the less spontaneous the better but if she wanted to be romantic, affectionate, plateful at random times when are alone; it would be very nice
Forethought~ Not that important as long as I know she wants to plan everything with me
Assertiveness~ the less the better
Aggressiveness ~ The less the better
Submissiveness~ The more the better
Flattery~ The more the better but if it's only with me
Openness/Sharing~ Very important 1ce things are serious; I'd want to tell her everything & want to know everything about her
Intensity~ 1ce things are serious the more the better
Light-heartedness~ I joke a bit/lot so light-heartedness is nice
Carefulness~ I think clumsiness is very cute but some carefulness an be nice to I guess
Fearlessness~ I'm not sure

Now if I can meet someone...

Last edited by nick007 on 28 Sep 2010, 2:12 pm, edited 3 times in total.

Being employed - not at all
Quality of job - not at all
Prospects for future advancement - not at all (why are people obsessed with all this status seeking BS?)
Having a car - not at all
Quality of car - oh yeah i only date women who drive ferraris
Hair style - if i'm honest i do like a girl with a cute cut
Size of living accommodations - again. why should this be of any significance?
Good neighborhood - not really fussed. Obviously being mugged on my way to a booty call wouldnt be so much fun but i'd get through it for the right girl
Nice furniture - ?
Organized, clean home - I actually like this.
Muscle tone - i only date female bodybuilders
Skin - mines not that great. i just met up with a girl with acne scars and didnt really care.
Smile - would be nice i suppose
Facial Hair (either way) - bearded ladies are all win for me
Clothing style - i suppose a cool looking chick would be fun to date
Body shape -i like skinny as a rake but i dont really care.
Shared interests- important
Sensitivity -yes. i like this
Intelligence - also a fan of this
Effort - personally i hate effort
Sense of humor - yes!
Confidence - dont care
Courage - what kind?
Giving attention- yes i like attention
Sexual prowess - i imagine this would be a plus
Flirtation - yeh its fun
Romantic behavior - also nice
Persistence - not bothered by a lack of
Respectfulness - yes
Playfulness - would be cute
Spontaneity - also a win for an aspie.
Forethought - sounds nice
Assertiveness - dont care
Aggressiveness - dont like
Submissiveness - dont really like either
Flattery - would be charming
Openness/Sharing - is nice
Intensity - wouldnt put me off
Light-heartedness - yes i like
Carefulness - cool
Fearlessness- dont expect

You dont know what your missing. Long sensual sunday mornings in front of the mirror. Brushing each others beards.

Why the hell not?

Being employed: 1 (since my age group is teenagers )
Quality of job: 1
Prospects for future advancement: 8
Having a car: 1
Quality of car: 1
Hair style: 1
Size of living accommodations: 1
Good neighborhood: 3
Nice furniture: 1
Organized, clean home: 1
Muscle tone: 1
Skin: 5
Smile: 5
Facial Hair (either way): 10 (I'm not shallow or anything, but I don't go for girls with facial hair, LOL)
Clothing style: 1
Body shape: 2
Shared interests: 5 (it'd be nice, but one of my ex-girlfriends and I shared a fair few interests but it still ended disastrously, plus learning new things from talking would be nice)
Sensitivity: 10
Intelligence: 10
Effort: effort in terms of what?
Sense of humor: 10
Confidence: 10
Courage: 4
Giving attention: 6
Sexual prowess: 4
Flirtation: 4
Romantic behavior: 5
Persistence: 5
Respectfulness: 10
Playfulness: 5
Spontaneity: 1
Forethought: 6
Assertiveness: 5
Aggressiveness: 4
Submissiveness: 5
Flattery: 5
Openness/Sharing: 10
Intensity: intensity of what?
Light-heartedness: 10
Carefulness: 10
Fearlessness: 4

lmfao!

Being employed: 7
Quality of job: 3
Prospects for future advancement: 10
Having a car: 1
Quality of car: 1
Hair style: 4
Size of living accommodations: 5
Good neighborhood: 3
Nice furniture: 3
Organized, clean home: 7
Muscle tone: 3
Skin: 1
Smile: 8
Facial Hair (either way): 1
Clothing style: 5
Body shape: 6
Shared interests: 1
Sensitivity: 10
Intelligence: 10
Effort: need a better definition
Sense of humor: 6
Confidence: need a better definition
Courage:2
Giving attention: 10
Sexual prowess: 6
Flirtation: 5
Romantic behavior: 5
Persistence: 10
Respectfulness: 10
Playfulness: 7
Spontaneity: 6
Forethought: need a better definition
Assertiveness: 6
Aggressiveness: 3
Submissiveness: 1
Flattery: 8
Openness/Sharing: 10
Intensity: need a better definition
Light-heartedness: 10
Carefulness: 10
Fearlessness: 3

Being employed: over 9000
Quality of job: over 9000
Prospects for future advancement: over 9000
Having a car: over 9000
Quality of car: over 9000
Hair style: over 9000
Size of living accommodations: over 9000
Good neighborhood: over 9000
Nice furniture: over 9000
Organized, clean home: over 9000
Muscle tone: over 9000
Skin: over 9000
Smile: over 9000
Facial Hair (either way): over 9000
Clothing style: over 9000
Body shape: over 9000
Shared interests: over 9000
Sensitivity: over 9000
Intelligence: over 9000
Effort: over 9000
Sense of humor: over 9000
Confidence:over 9000
Courage: over 9000
Giving attention: over 9000
Sexual prowess: over 9000
Flirtation: over 9000
Romantic behavior: over 9000
Persistence: over 9000
Respectfulness: over 9000
Playfulness: over 9000
Spontaneity:over 9000
Forethought: over 9000
Assertiveness: over 9000
Aggressiveness:over 9000
Submissiveness: over 9000
Flattery: over 9000
Openness/Sharing: over 9000
Intensity: over 9000
Light-heartedness: over 9000
Carefulness:over 9000
Fearlessness: over 9000

Word to your mother!! !

R.I.P. Vegeta's power level...

You just officially overdid the joke.

AND DON'T YOU FORGET IT FRENCHIE!! !

there seems to be a wider variety of answers here than on the thread of female lists(even excluding a certain someone who rated over 9000 points to every category)

I guess I'll give it a bite. I'm not good at picking and choosing traits since I'm more flexible than I realize sometimes.

Being employed: 6
Quality of job: 5
Prospects for future advancement: 5
Having a car: 3
Quality of car: 3
Hair style: 3
Size of living accommodations: 1
Good neighborhood: 4
Nice furniture: 2(well I hope they don't sleep on a wooden plank.)
Organized, clean home: 5 (doesn't have to perfect but I dislike smells and bugs)
Muscle tone: 1
Skin: 4
Smile: 7(a good smile goes a long way...)
Facial Hair (either way): 0 N/A
Clothing style: 4
Body shape: 6
Shared interests: 7
Sensitivity: ?
Intelligence: 7
Effort: 5
Sense of humor: 6
Confidence: 7
Courage: 7
Giving attention: 9
Sexual prowess: 9
Flirtation: 8
Romantic behavior: 8
Persistence: ?
Respectfulness: 8
Playfulness: 9
Spontaneity: 7
Forethought: ?
Assertiveness: 8
Aggressiveness: 3
Submissiveness: 1
Flattery: 8
Openness/Sharing: 9
Intensity: ?
Light-heartedness: 8
Carefulness: 5
Fearlessness: 8

Here are my rankings:

Being employed: 2.If we can figure a way to live out of my wage I wouldnt mind.
Quality of job: 0.As long as she is happy with her job and makes no complaints to me I dont see a reason to bother about the quality of her work.
Prospects for future advancement:It depends in the person, if she is ok where shes at (0), if she is going to get mad about not making advancements then 10.
Having a car: 10
Quality of car: As long as it can get herr wherever she wants and I dont have to expend money/time fixing it I dont have any preferences
Hair style: 4
Size of living accommodations: 2
Good neighborhood: 2
Nice furniture: 0
Organized, clean home: 3
Muscle tone: 2
Skin: 0
Smile: 3
Facial Hair (either way): 1
Clothing style:0
Body shape: 5
Shared interests: 10
Sensitivity: 7
Intelligence: 9
Effort: if we are reffering to the amount of effort she is going to put in the relationship 10.
Sense of humor: 8
Confidence: 6
Courage: 4
Giving attention: 10
Sexual prowess: 8
Flirtation: 8
Romantic behavior: 10
Persistence: 7
Respectfulness: 10
Playfulness: 7
Spontaneity: 10
Forethought: need a better definition
Assertiveness: 5
Aggressiveness: 1
Submissiveness: 1
Flattery: 10
Openness/Sharing: 8
Intensity:
Light-heartedness: 10
Carefulness: 7
Fearlessness: 6