Is it normal for a guy to be interested in a girl because...

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Is it normal for a guy to be interested in a girl because he wants her for her and not because he wants sex?

Yes, lots of couples wait until marriage to have sex. Many people looking to get married don't want to base it off of sex alone and some are even asexual.

Yes, honestly, when most of my male friends liked a girl, they weren't just driven by their libido, and in fact, most of them wanted a relationship of substance with her.

They'd usually get quite nervous and put a good deal of planning into how to approach these girls.

What I am asking is. Will people think I am weird or something?

I'm not sure I understand the question. What do you mean by "he wants her for her"? What sort of "interest" are we talking about?

If I am sexually interested in a woman, I have a desire to have sex with her. That is an analytic truth. For a man to not be interested in sex with a woman he is sexually interested in would be not just not normal, but plainly absurd.

I think he is asking if its normal to like a girl for what she is, instead of just wanting to have sex with her.

And I think thats pretty normal on older people, it may be different on younger people but girls above 25 are usually looking for guys that like them for something more than just sex(they have usually had problems with reltaionships based on sex only on the past).

Normal but I'll never do that again! I put the sex in sexual relationships!

Sure it is. Unfortunately, it isn't common at the age that most of us are at, but it definitely can be a basis for a great relationship. In cases like this, sex is just the icing on the cake.

This mentality is how I met my girlfriend!

You're not weird for thinking that way. Anyone who thinks you are is not worth acknowledging.

Why not?

A "sexual relationship" is a relationship that involves sexual intimacy and copulation is not the only form of sexual intimacy.

Well if they are driven by libido are they perhaps into it for sex?

I voted no because as far as I see it most guys may enjoy hanging out and dating girls but their eye is focused on the end prize.

Love may develop later. But as I see it it's unusual for a guy to court a girl without his eye on the prize. Not impossible, but unusual.

^ This. Sorry guys.

honestly, i don't know if it's normal, as i am a woman and not a man. but who cares what we think anyway? if it is what you want, then it is normal for you. that is all that is truly important.

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Yeah, it's normal. If I ever get into a relationship, sex wouldn't be one of the things that I would instantly think of sex at all.

It is absolutely normal for a guy to be interested in a girl w/o sex. However, for the formation of a relationship - then no. Biologically speaking, we are in it for the procreation of our genes and the survival of the specials. Unless we are going after some Hardy-Weinberg principle, it makes no sense to form an asexual relationship.

Hence, "interested" just for fun or hanging out - no sex is required. However, if you're interested in a relationship which includes dating, then (IMO) there damn better be sex in that relationship (doesn't mean every 3rd hour, but it needs to be consumated).

It all comes down to how you define "interested"