Have you ever been 'beaten to it' by another guy/girl?

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I know that this is something that many (if not all) of you will have had happen to you, but I'll tell you my story anyway....

Before I begin let me explain that I'd prefer not to have stories about girls/guys who flat out hated you, (we have loads of stuff about this already) but what I'm talking about is cases where you've met someone they liked you and for whatever reason they still regeted you because they weren't single!

I've had it happen one or two times and I hope that you now understand my views expressed on some of my other posts where I talk about what I may do if another guy 'beats me to it'

The sad fact is that sometimes if you really want something in this world you are (from time to time) going to have to stomp on people (as we aren't in Heaven yet you don't get everything handed to you on a silver platter, which is what happens up there0 to stop them from preventing you from making your dreams come true!

I won't go into any stories this time but I'll be more than happy for you guy's and gals to share yours.

Don't forget that breaking a happy couple up or guilt tripping someone is far better than killing yourself (in order to get to Heaven quicker) as even if you are forgiven (as one could repent as you are dying) you'd still (most likely) make a lot of people unhappy.

I hope you now understand what I meant by those posts I put up in the past, all they are are precondition in case the userel metfords (ie charming) don't work!

In my eyes if you love someone you wounldn't want them to come to any harm but you'd what any rivels to be out of the way by whatever means that you had at hand. Also if she/he did not love you (but still liked you) guilt tripping is o.k. as (if it worked) they'd feel sorry for you and thus learn to love you in time after they got to know you via dating.

They aren't the first plans one should use but the make a good 'plan b' in case you need them.

Goodbye till next time

Well, there was a female I had a crush on, and one of my friends - a physics major, who also has AS - asked her out first.

Did you tell him you had a crush on her? When I was young, if I dared even mention that I fancied someone, my friends would go to bed with him. Nice friends, huh? I couldn't even get a date until the day came where I dumped my friends...3 of them. I was married within a year from that day.

Nope. I didn't tell him. They're currently happy, and I'm currently happy with my situation. Win-win.

I've had plenty of crushes were a girl beat me to him. I never had the guts to say anything to them because I assumed they wouldn't like me. Then I started asking guys out whenever I would have feelings to avoid having another girl beat me to them, but they rejected me instead. At least this way, I knew how they felt and that it wasn't mutual. Then I asked out another guy, he said yes, we dated for three week, he cheated and he texts me for booty calls whenever "his favorite girl" doesn't want him. It's like I'm Option B and I hate that. D:

Most notable, I liked this one girl back in 2002 and 2003. Never bothered asking her out. Someone else did, and the two them been together nearly seven years now.

All.
The Damn.
TIME.

Well just so you'd like to know this time I've not been beaten to it as I've now got a girlfriend!

However that said there's most likely someone out there who's feeling bad as I've beaten THEM to her!! !

Goodbye Till Next Time

I've never been sure of this. There is one girl who I thought I had good chemistry with, but I didn't know her for long enough to take the risk of asking her out - when I did know her, it was near the end of college and she was taken anyway.

There were a few others who I thought I had a chance with, but didn't really move in, and they were eventually taken by someone else. At the time, of course, I'd be upset. What would register with me later is that they probably weren't as interested in me as I thought they were.

Good to hear, RightGalaxy.


And, yes, I've had it happen too. Best thing to do is to maintain personal space and do communicate. 'nuff said.

Isn't that... a little quick to go from "just meeting someone" to "married"?

friends beat me to it all the time.

Oh sweet memories! My sister used to do that.

There was a girl who I tried to start a relationship with for a good two or three years. I went slow, built a foundation, was someone she confided in while she was experiencing some career woes. We never could get into full on dating because I was two states away at school.

When I finally finish school and return home, I was filled with hope that finally I could take things to the next level, or rather, the first level, actually dating. I had a good job, and it was all coming together.

We met up for lunch and then she breaks the news she's dating someone...she met a month before...on a blind date. Years building a foundation of trust and respect as well as some genuine chemistry (I sensed, at least) and all undone by some guy who just got lucky and met her once. And if you could've seen this guy's photo. I did, and he reeked of douchebag...snide poseur look, half unbuttoned shirt.

The b***h went for the guy who was all flash and style, and ditched the guy with substance.

For a while I fantasized about tracking the guy down and beating him with a bat, to "destroy something beautiful" as was said in Fight Club. Eventually though I realized the whore wasn't worth it, and I could do better. I realized that she was going nowhere, working for the government, bound to get fat and have ugly kids, and with my work as a filmmaker, I was on a course to do better things than she could ever dream of doing in her life.

Once I did that, I didn't care about her any more, whether she lived or died. If I ever bump into her, or she into me, I plan on saying, "Sorry I don't remember you. What's your name again?"

Yes - it's called "missing the boat". Or that thing about when opportunity comes knocking... If you don't grab up something good someone else will come along and take it. You can't take years to get everything right and then think the person is going to wait around for you. That is unreasonable. I knew guys who seemed sit there quietly looking at me with big eyes (now that I look back I realized they were interested) but they never made a move, so I did - in the direction of another person who would at least engage with me. I've been on both sides of the situation. Both suck.