nthach wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
....you witness teen guys or girls who are at least 10 years younger than you yet are successfully in relationships , having friends and a good social life?
I feel like a severely social ret*d every time I see much younger guys talking and analyzing about their relationships.
I feel like a second-class citizen. I don't accept the fact I have AS, and I hate myself for not being able to socialize. I want to do all the things NTs take for granted - for us, it seems like a battle we'll never win.
I'll never live in acceptance I'm different than 99% of the population.
A battle you'll never win? AS is a learning impairment. Just because we pick things up more gradually doesn't mean we can't pick them up at all. I wasn't born with moves, but I've learned to have an honest conversation and that's the start of any relationship. If you tell yourself you're a social ret*d who can't ever have a relationship, you won't ever have one. Nobody wants to hook up with a moper.
There are people all over this site who have AS and stable relationships, a lot are even married with families, so you can't blame your AS for your personal failure to believe in your own abilities. I would never argue that autism is not a disability, because it surely is, but having a limp is not the same as being born without legs.
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