Curious About A Chick

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So I travel much for work and during my travels up north met a chick in my hometown (so weird since my wife and I are getting divorced and that's where we met) at a local restaurant. At any rate, we talked some and then hooked up on Facebook and talked some more via private messages. From there, since most of my family live in that same city, I opted to take some vacation time I was about to lose and head up for the week to spend some time getting to know her and take her to dinner. Long story short, the week turned out extremely well and we seemed to hit it off very well, and maybe almost too well (as in surreal).

While I realize that I cannot go around trying to diagnose people with AS for many reasons, I really am curious about what traits or identifiers might be associated with an Aspie female in her twenties. What drives this curiosity is, during the course of spending time and getting to know each other, I started getting a very eerie feeling from her (in a good, but still eerie way). So many things she said were almost word-for-word responses I would have made had I been talking. I actually have a formal diagnosis and just ponder the possibility that I may have met someone else with AS based on the depth of similarity that we share--and I don't mean things like what sort of food we like and such, though such things also were present.

So I ask, what sort of things might be possible indicators of AS in a twenty-something female? Feel free to mention anything at all as we spent a lot of time together and discussed everything from how we recall memories to sexual proclivities.

And again, I do realize that I am no diagnostician in these matters, but I simply cannot help but wonder. I realize it's quit possible that she's just simply a quirky chick and nothing more.

Heh, it's funny. My wife (SC has a one-year waiting period before allowing a divorce) used to ask me if I would be happier with someone more like myself and I never could answer because I've never met anyone like me--not even close. Now I have and I'm kind of taken back by it--though still reveling in the matter.

Thanks,

Just a suggestion, but ask yourself why you want to know? What I mean is what practical benefit is there in "knowing" she is or isn't Aspie? If you're getting along great, that's wonderful, but spend a few minutes imagining the following scenarios: One, she decides to seek formal diagnosis and she's not Aspie, or two, she is. Does that change anything for you? Think carefully, because if it makes a difference to you then I'll suggest there's something else going on in your head and you need to figure that out ASAP.

So, more to the topic, you've spent some time together talking about "everything." Did Asperger's ever come up? If not, why not?

If somebody is having significant problems getting along in the world, particularly a child, I'm all in favor of formal diagnosis. There are resources to help that can't be had without the diagnosis. But for somebody who's grown up without a diagnosis and not ended up in a disastrous life, there's really nothing to be gained. There is always "something to lose" in getting labeled, so it's only worthwhile if there's something more to be gained.

If you reach the point in the relationship where you are comfortable talking about Asperger's, point her to your favorite resources on the topic, like Wrong Planet (and Look Me In the Eye, in my personal case), as ways she can learn more about what makes you tick. If she's really interested in you, she'll be interested in those. And if she recognizes herself, that's great. If she doesn't, no harm done.

didn't read anymore after you refered to her as a 'chick.'
thats a little demeaning.

Actually, that makes much sense. It's an issue I'm currently working on, this deep desire to just know everything--regardless of necessity or whether knowing adds any value whatsoever. And would it change anything? Nope, it would only satiate the desire to just know--which I need to get under wraps.



Actually, it did. When I drove back to the state I met her in, I was wearing an Asperger's t-shirt I have. We actually ended up discussing it briefly later.

I appreciate the reality check there and now I'll just work on being happy that someone likes me and that's that.

B*tch, p*ssy, fox, cat, chick.


I'll never understand how one can justify likening women to animals.

Me either. I'm a person. I deserve to be treated like one.
If the roles were reversed the male would be in uproar.

You can call me tiger. *roars*

haha i laughed.
but seriously; with the wrong tone all these animal names are demeaning but with the right tone.

Only a chick or a pussy-whipped dude would say that!

D'awww only someone bitter would use them in the first place.
Sorry for you.

Me being bitter is irrelevant to my choice of slang.

call me tiger with whatever tone you want.

I'd personally rather be refered to as a "chick" than someone's "woman."

Personally "chick" is somewhat of a compliment to me... its generally used for someone who is good looking, yeh can be used in general like "I'm a gamer chick," but often times when ppl use it they use it towards nice looking ppl, so perfectly fine being refered to that way.

There are also girls who like being called names like that, usually because they find it cute or whatever... Just so you know.

who are you kidding? you are a chick

.....a kiwi chick.

I call girls chicks and I'm a chick myself I don't find it demeaning at all. It sounds hippie-ish.