Tired

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I have read many posts in the love and dating section the last couple of days and I have come to the conclusion that I am just tired of worrying about this stuff. I too like some in this forum have never been on a date or had any significant relationship with a girl before. There are times when I want it so badly and I try like hell to get there but it never seems to work. I seem to be okay with having casual relationships with girls but I just don't know what I got to do to get to the next step.

Eventually it is so tiring and I just want to be me. There comes a point when I just want to accept me for me and enjoy the things that I enjoy and just accept myself. I am not a bad person. I am a loving, caring, and interesting individual for whatever reason has a condition that makes it so I always have to go the extra mile to make things happen when it comes to dating and any thing social.

If there is a woman out there which I believe there is always a jill for every jack, thats great but if not I am going to try my best to not worry about it and try to enjoy the rest of my life. I just want everybody in this forum to know that even though I may not know any of you really at all we are all special in some way and our aspergers gives us talents that not many people have. It just so happens that socially things are really difficult and no matter how hard we try it will get better but still always something that has to be dealt with.

I am taking a break but of course never giving up. Just tired of giving so much extra effort that doesn't yeild big results.

Good call.

'a jill for every jack.'
that's so cute.

You have articulated in a very eloquent way what many of us have experienced in our attempts at a romantic relationship. It's like you took the words right out of my soul. Life isn't fair for a lot of people and that sucks ,plain and simple

I also think of all the people with physical handicaps, birth defects, emotional and mental challenges ect. who will never have a loving partner in their lives. Wanting to be validated by being loved and accepted is such a primal desire and an honorable one,it is really unfortunate that it remains so elusive.

But you are still young and you have a good attitude about your challenges. So hang in there buddy and be strong. Take a break and stay as positive as you can about the good things in your life. Re energize yourself and then go out there and give it another try, and good luck too you.

It's wise to know when to give up.

You can always have another crack at the whole romantic love thing later. Contract then expand.