Very Interesting Experience at a Dance Party

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This weekend, I went to a costume party at a dance studio I never went to before, in another town. (On their website, they advertise themselves as an "alternative to clubs", so that's what drew me in.) I take dance classes occasionally, so I know the unwritten rules of social dancing. Namely, they are: don't monopolize one person for more than a few songs, dance at half an arm's length, try to match your partner's skill level, etc. After stumbling here and there at first, I now know all the rules, learned a lot of dances, and managed to develop a positive reputation at the place I go to regularly. I'm not a pro, but I get compliments on my dancing, and haven't creeped anyone out in years, at least not in dance classes.

Now, let's backtrack a few days to the party I attended this weekend. I came to the event in a doctor costume. I danced with a lot of people, and had some conversations. It was getting late, being already past 11:00pm. I was standing at the edge of the dance floor, pretty much people watching. Next thing I knew, some girl, dressed as a nurse, grabbed my hand, and pulled me onto the dance floor. She smiled at me and said: "I think I could use a dance". I tried to do some of the "classic" dances I knew, but she instead started dancing with me in a way I did not expect at a dance studio: very close, almost grinding style, but also being somewhat cuddly. I quickly picked up on the fact that the girl didn't have experience with dance schools or classic dancing.

It was the most unusual experience I ever had at a dance studio. I pretty much knew both she and I were acting really silly. But I didn't care. For onlookers, it looked like acting stupid. But for me and her, it was a really fun game of flirting, playing around, and dancing. This continued for nearly half-hour. I'm sure it would have gone further if it wasn't for the lights being bright enough to see the dancers. At the end, the girl gave me a full-body hug, and left with her friends.

Oh wow! It was a very unique experience, and definitely a breath of fresh air! In a way, she reminded me of myself when I first started dancing in public, be it studios or clubs. I had no knowledge of the "social protocol", and had to rely on trial-and-error. That night, the girl I danced with, who didn't seem remotely shy, was in the same situation. So that made dancing with her all the more interesting.

So, Halloween already ended, but I still can't stop smiling about the while turn of events. Post your thoughts.

Sounds nice.

You obviously were attractive to her, without even trying... I'm not surprised you're smiling. This may be your first experience of someone coming onto you, I don't know... but either way, you know now that there's something about you that women can find attractive. Hope this boosts your confidence... it certainly should do.

I wish you two the best of luck and I give you my regards.

Don't tell me that you didn't ask for her number.

Truth be told, I didn't ask for her phone number. She seemed too wild and too young for me (I'm 27; she looked about 20). Sure, I had a blast dancing with her, but I think I'd have some difficulty integrating her into my life. The experience felt like nostalgic trip to a college party (where I went only a few times) or a welcome back night at a dorm (where I never had the experience of living). You know, in the age when blatant, outlandish flirting was welcomed, rather than discouraged. Being an aspie, I didn't have a "proper" college experience, so this was like playing catch-up.

I think what made the whole experience exponentially more interesting are her actions being out of context. Namely, acting very flirty and affectionate in a place that puts emphasis on social boundaries (a dance studio). Well, that and the fact that she picked me out a crowd, although I think my costume matching hers helped influence her decision . Looks like I'll be going to that new dance studio pretty often, although I won't be holding my breath for the same experience, either.

sounds romantic and fun.