What nice thing canI do for my BF

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Hi,
I've been in a relationship for nearly a year with an amazing AS boyfriend. Thing is he's at work alot of the time and i'm currently unemploye. I feel that I'm being selfish when I want hugs at night. I can't buy him presents as he disslikes getting them . Is there anything nice I can do for him as he's having a bit of a rubbish time at the moment and i'm not helping much.

He's awfully lucky to have someone who's thinking about him as caringly as you are. I bet that most of the time the kind of consideration you show in your message is enough.

The nicest things that my partner can do for me are to comfort me and to try to share my interests. I have certain ways of being touched and even being talked to that you are very comforting to me. I need to feel free to stim in front of someone I spend a lot of time.

And when someone bothers to learn something about the things I'm interested in, it really makes me feel great. When I can talk about my special interests, I'm happy. When somebody I love bothers to learn about them I tlnow they care about me.

Also-- direct messages are important to me. I need to be told I am liked and loved. I need to be praised. I think things things are true for most people, and truer of aspies than it might look from the outside.

Well I can think of something every men likes, but that is I think stating the obvious and this topic in need of moving it to de Mature Forum

Relaxation time together like massage with etheric oils are an option beside the first made proposition.

Cheerfully,
Wallourdes

Cooking food

You must know what he likes, try cooking. It does not have to be sophisticated, it does not have to be expensive, it should not need a lot of time. Start with the basics of what he loves and try to create contrast with something else. It require some trials, but when he says "humm that's good" you won.