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Alright so this is a bit to do with past stuff not my current relationship which is just fine, but a past relationship(I suppose you might call it). So over a year ago there was a guy I went out with a few times who essentially broke it off with me, we went out a few times and I did like him. But after one time we met up I didn't hear from him for a few days...and even made efforts to arrange to meet up again which he ignored all of.

Anyways the other day he messaged me on facebook, I didn't particularly want to respond as I've certainly moved on and am quite happy with my boyfriend. Well after some friendly chat he told me how girls on okcupid don't seem interested and he is not the type they like....well thing is when a girl(me) was interested in him he stopped talking to her until she moved on and found someone else. Admittedly I didn't really have a response to his sentiments, and didn't really want to say 'well I liked you' as I don't want to give any wrong ideas.

Does anyone have any sort of insight...do you think he's just trying to be social and reach out to people he's met in life that he hasn't talked to in a while. Or do you think he's having a go at me for getting a relationship? I am just not sure what to think.

It sounds like he's going through old contacts because he's not getting anyone interested on OKC. Obviously, you aren't still interested like he's hoping, and he'll vanish again once he realizes he's not gonna get what he wants from you.

^I'm inclined to agree, his self esteem might be a bit battered and you were the last person to bolster it. I don't like it.

He might want you for a fling, too.

Or he might actually want more than that.

I would say the guy has nerve, though.

If I would do that to a girl, I don't think I would do what the guy did.

Yeah perhaps it's best just not to speak further with this guy, doesn't seem like either me or him for that matter is going to get anything positive out of any further contact.

He was kind of rude to you so you should probably just tell him you have a boyfriend and drop it at that. Don't feel guilty. Online dating sucks. Lots of people just flake.

I agree with Kraftie. I would run the other way. It sounds to me like he is trying to hit you up. It seems to me that he sees you happy, and now is maybe jealous. It sounds like he wants you back.

It sounds like he's looking for some quick ego boosting and maybe sex. He would very likely break it off again as soon as he finds something else or has his fill. So yeah he is likely just trying to use you.

I would probably not even reply at all.

As often happens, my response is a little different.

I would probably text back that I liked him back then, and he just blew me off. Did he realize I liked him? Why did he think it was ok to do that to someone? And then I would also say I am happy with my current boyfriend, wish him luck, and say due to my current relationship I don't want to communicate further.

The reason I would do this is, there is too little truth and understanding in the world. This guy might be just that clueless, that he doesn't understand what happened between you two. Now, you aren't required to continue to converse with him, and that's the reason for the last remark (not wanting to communicate further), but at least you have done him the honor of a reply and wishing him luck. There is too little kindness in life, and we can be kind while still having boundaries.

I think you should ignore him.

He may get the message that ignoring people is not nice and learn a lesson.

Ceasing contact is your best option regardless of his motivations, not like he means anything to you anymore anyways.