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13 Nov 2010, 9:17 pm

Some of you might remember this thread
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt142371.html
This is basically a part 2 to it... So basically at first I wasn't sure what this girls intentions were, now I'm almost sure and I'm getting kind of uncomfortable in that I kind of just want to be like "Fine let's f**k if you want too so badly" like I first started really getting it at school when she was talking to me and kept making references about my dick in jokes, and she is constantly saying things through text like "I'm so cold and want someone to warm me up" or "I'm really bored and want to hang out, parents aren't home" s**t like that... It's pretty obvious she wants me to bone her and I really want to say yes but the thing is she has a boyfriend (I'm assuming their relationship isn't that great but still) and I want to start a relationship with a different girl, I just haven't made my move yet... What do I do?



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13 Nov 2010, 9:19 pm

If she has a boyfriend and is like that with you, she's not worth it. Ignore her.
Start the relationship with the person you want instead of trying to get meaningless sex with some girl who doesn't have any qualms flirting with people when she's dating someone else.



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13 Nov 2010, 9:19 pm

Also I think I should bring up that a rumour has started around the school that I am "Extremely Endowed" which isn't entirely true but people seem to believe it anyways and that may or may not have something to do with it.



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13 Nov 2010, 9:22 pm

emlion wrote:
If she has a boyfriend and is like that with you, she's not worth it. Ignore her.
Start the relationship with the person you want instead of trying to get meaningless sex with some girl who doesn't have any qualms flirting with people when she's dating someone else.


True but the thing is she is friends with pretty much all of my friends and I can't really ignore her...



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13 Nov 2010, 9:26 pm

I meant more ignore the behaviour.
But, imo, if someone was willing to be such a cheaty flirt I wouldn't want to be their friend.
I can't stand people who cheat or even consider cheating.



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13 Nov 2010, 9:47 pm

Xenu wrote:
Some of you might remember this thread
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt142371.html
This is basically a part 2 to it... So basically at first I wasn't sure what this girls intentions were, now I'm almost sure and I'm getting kind of uncomfortable in that I kind of just want to be like "Fine let's f**k if you want too so badly" like I first started really getting it at school when she was talking to me and kept making references about my dick in jokes, and she is constantly saying things through text like "I'm so cold and want someone to warm me up" or "I'm really bored and want to hang out, parents aren't home" s**t like that... It's pretty obvious she wants me to bone her and I really want to say yes but the thing is she has a boyfriend (I'm assuming their relationship isn't that great but still) and I want to start a relationship with a different girl, I just haven't made my move yet... What do I do?


Never ever ever have sexual relations with someone who is already in a relationship!

She might just be using you to spite, or "get back" or make her boyfriend jealous or whatever, and her boyfriend might beat the crap out of you if he found out.

Next time she makes comments like she has been, remind her that she has a boyfriend. If she persists, tell her you're not interested.



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13 Nov 2010, 9:59 pm

Don't do it. She isn't worth it. If the rumour has something to do with it, whats going to happen if she realises its not true? It might make things twice as awkward.

I have to agree with ignore the behaviour. You don't want to get involved with a cheater, you will have the boyfriend to deal with after that, plus anything she blabs about the rumour, its just a huge mess.



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13 Nov 2010, 10:23 pm

Yeah... I think I'll just try and ignore her...



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13 Nov 2010, 10:51 pm

You might risk losing all of your friends in common if anything happens between you and her.