Do I stand a chance of getting a girl or even...

Post Reply New Topic

....real friends that would respect me?

Let's see:

I'm ugly (at least most people seem to think so)

People (including people I used to hang out with and family members) treat me like I'm a slow, ret*d, good for nothing burden, and try to belittle me in public.

I don't go outside anymore because I'm sick of people staring and giggling at me and the way I look and dress.

Up until the 5th grade I was in special ed because of behavior problems. From 6th to 9th (two years in 8th and two years in 9th grade) I was in regular classes. While in regular I rarely went to class and barely did any work. I couldn't cope and get along with most people (students and teachers) because of anxiety, aspergers, and ADHD. I dropped out in the 9th so i barely have anything more than a 5th grade education

I don't have any friends whatsoever.

Other than a prostitute when I was 15, I haven't had so much as a kiss from the opposite sex.

I also have extremely poor hygiene ever since I was young. Before yesterday, it had been about 4 months since I've took a bath, and another four months before that one.

...And of course problems with Aspergers. I have no kind of conversation and social skills.

I have no future, other than probably being homeless or living in projects. It makes me sad that I've never get to enjoy the things normal people get to (relationships, proms, graduation, parties, weddings, concerts, road trips, etc)

Life isn't worth living. Who would want to live as me? I'd like the optimists and positive people to try and put a spin on this.

I'm not on drugs and I'm not fat, that's the only two things I have going.

Absolutely, change the things you can, such as bathing and then demand respect. It sounds like a lot of people act to keep you down so you can put up with it or you can try to change it. If you can't change them change your locale.

What were the ideas/events that make you loose your enthusiasm for life in the first place?

It is rational not to take a bath if you have no reason to. Motivation is the key to accelerate the machine and start the motion that makes the parts moving. What you need is a motivation that you consider legitimate.

Even if you are really ugly, your appearance would improve a lot if you bathed regularly. No offense, but you won't get friends easily if you smell bad.

Here are some suggestions:

1. BATHE EVERY DAY
2. OTHER HYGIENE STUFF (teeth, hair, etc.)
3. Go get some help to study for your GED... that's still an option
4. Be yourself, life isn't worth living otherwise
5. Be happy

Get in really good shape.....get a job....invest in plastic surgery. Shave your head if your balding


I live on crazy checks, I don't think I can afford plastic surgery lol



Go back to college and educated yourself...start reading


How can I go back if I've never been? haha

You sound like you need to be medicated first.

Second, bathing is not only so you don't smell terrible to others. You can get scabies and other things from not bathing enough.

No-one will accept you if you don't at least try and be someone you yourself are proud of.

More info about me:

I'm 20, male, still living with my parents (grandma) and my sister.

Heh my sister is probably worse than I am. She was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia a few months. Lately the medicine hasn't been working and she's has been having strong thoughts about harming us and herself. She'll probably be in a metal home longterm sooner of later.

My grandma (who is the only person that's come the closest to understanding me) isn't exactly a spring chicken. She'll more than likely be dead in a few years and I'll be left with no one and nothing.

Since she pays most of the bills, I'll be probably left out on the street, homeless, since none of my other close relatives want to have anything to do with me.

That's my fear at least.

Work on the little stuff. Go to the local Wal-Mart, get a bottle of body wash, a loofah, deodorant, toothbrush, toothpaste, and shampoo. Bathe or shower regularly.

As for your lack of education, get a GED. And get some professional help to get you back on your feet again.

I don't have too many friends nor do I pick up on social cues and my social skills ain't the best. That doesn't stop me from going out. I do things that most of you do and some - go to concerts, bars, amusement parks, roadtrips(even though I much prefer air travel) and all that jazz. But I'm happiest when I'm physically active - either on my bike or if my avatar isn't a dead giveaway, on my snowboard. I still get my Aspie moments or my social lockups, but I'm starting to mitigate those before hand.

So yea, if you want to work on your social skills get off the damn computer or XBox and go outside. There isn't an easier way to do so guys.

You talk like your a victim of everyone elses shortcomings,
why blame them, your the one who's cripplingly insecure


read some self-help books or something

Nah man you will find people you can connect to. out of 95% of people I know I would't give a s**t if they died or something (Sounds a bit harsh I know) but that 5% is enough to make it seem worth it still. And you will find something.

I just want to be accepted and treated normal by people without changing myself, that's not that big of a wish is it?