pretending to be in a relationship to look more attractive

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^^^ as per the title, i was just doing some thinking about what makes people appear attractive. something that curiously seems to make people seem more attractive is... seeming unavailable.

we all know that people cheat (badbadno!) and for a long time it was assumed that only men intentionally "poached" on other men's territory. but now it is also known that a large segment of women prefer men who are in relationships. especially.... a large segment of single women. some of them say "all the good men are taken" because they WANT a man who is already attached. here's a study about that:

http://tierneylab.blogs.nytimes.com/200 ... ached-men/

so, anyway... putting aside the fact that men and women really suck sometimes... has anyone ever considered pretending they are in a (i.e. casual/long-distance/vague) relationship just to make themselves appear more attractive? i think that if the relationship was rocky and just happened to end at an appropriate time as someone new was showing interest.... ummmm could that work?

i value honesty. but i can see how this could work. a person who has had successful relationships carries a bit of a resume/cv... they have references, so to speak. and if a new person even felt like they were poaching from some old flame... it seems like a plan that has merit (though maybe it is a bit unethical). is this crazy?

Hyper? do you have fever?

Boo, i don't like dishonesty. but i try to be honest about how people's minds work, as far as i can tell.

and this kind of dishonesty seems like... it would be a funny story 10 years into marriage.

maybe i am wrong and this is crazy. i think i need some volunteers to try this out.

I like that. *thumbs up*

I think Boo himself in a way can attest to this through his dating experiences.

Well, before yesterday I've changed my Okcupid's status to "seeing someone" with that note in header: ***Note: I am currently dating someone at the moment. Sorry fans, you either have to wait while selfishly hoping bad :p for my relationship in progress or to look for someone else***

Got 3 messages in the next day, one of them from a girl who ignored my latest messages (exchanged messages before) for long.


Now can I SAY THIS WITH A BIG SIGH WITHOUT CALLING ME SEXIST:

*sigh* Women....

^^^ yeah, it's true. i know it's not 100% of women, but it's enough of them that i have been mulling this idea for a while, thinking whether it could help someone. not that i think about WP members a lot.

This wouldn't work for me, because nobody would believe I was in a relationship, plus I happen to know the biggest network of narcs ever. Before I could even say that I was in a (fake) relationship, I'd be ratted out.

hahaha that's fair enough. i couldn't pull it off either.

If circumstances were more on my side though, I'd do it.

I have noticed this and will NEVER understand. It seems like everything is all one big game.

It would really weird me out if I ever found out someone I knew was lying about this sort of thing, doubly so if I knew they were doing it just to pick up chicks. Any relationship I had with them, romantic or otherwise, would likely fizzle out then and there (though it's unlikely I'd be romantically involved with them at all because I make a point to avoid hooking up with people who are in a relationship or freshly broken up).

How would one pull this off? Most of the time I can tell by visual clues, like the guy grabbing the girl's hand or shoulder really tight or vice-versa when they see me. Joking aside, whenever I see a girl alone, completely absorbed in a text or call, or any jewelry on the left hand, or displaying a masculine article of clothing on an otherwise feminine outfit, I've learned it's safer to assume her unavailability. My point being, how would a guy go about this without dropping an imaginary girlfriend's name every 5 seconds in a conversation? The key here is being able to say 1000 words without speaking; this is a major factor in the proverbial "desperate vibe" - there must be something lacking in a guy's appearance that signifies a woman's touch. Think about how many single women practically foam at the mouth at the sight of a guy wearing a wedding ring.

As for my current situation, I have my online sort-of LDR that keeps me focused, to the point of tuning real-life women out that I may come across, so I probably wouldn't recognize any sudden interest if there was any really

^^^ o lordy, i didn't think that far in advance. the details escape me. i am not good at facades, i would make a poor, poor criminal.

In fact, LePetitPrince (a hot and funny user but got banned because he was such an as*hole) posted something about this like 1 million years ago:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp2450840 ... t=#2450840

It's because we've evolved from apes, that's why. Oh, we ARE apes too.

The alpha-seeking instinct stills exist in female humans and it's still quite strong too, a male with a female or appearing to be desired by many females is a strong indication of his alphahood.

hahaha yes Boo. the effect seems to work mostly on women who are single and looking, and that is the demographic that men would be (obviously) looking for. i wonder if there is another way to mimic the effect, like by making up an EX-girlfriend?

hyperlexian is recommending well known PUA techniques to men here.

The Mayans got it wrong, the apocalypse is tomorrow.

Say good bye to your loved ones, people ((( ))).