hyperlexian wrote:
i think it is a really good idea to get to know him online first. you have a very good instinct there. i think it's a reasonably cautious to not let him pressure you to meet in person until you are ready. there are real, actual dangers for a woman (which can happen to a man, but the chances are much smaller). plus, just for your own personal comfort level you may want to get acquainted online first.
and if you eventually decide to meet up and are still really nervous, you can each bring along a friend for a double-date or you can each try to assemble a few people for a group activity. or you can meet and have a date in a public place and leave separately.
this is all presuming that you live close to each other.
thats another thing we live about 200 miles away so to meet him even halfway inbetween would be way out of my familiarity zone