I have a GF, so do you have any tips?

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I know that I have already said this on other posts elsewhere but I'd like to say......

I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND!! !! !! !! !! !

Although this is not my first one (I had a two long term ones while I was at school) if any of you out there have any advice then please feel free to give it to me.

Now for some info about, how I met the lovely lady and a few things about her.

As some of you already know I've been going to a bar for disabled people for the last few mouths and although I've got on well with the people there, many of the 'better' girls (ie those who look nice and who are my type) had boyfriends.

All that changed however when one week I met a few girls, and started to chat them up.

Thanks to this I felt a lot better about myself and of my own life.

The following week I returned, intending to see them once more, and although I was unable to find them I did happen to see a nice looking girl in a long purple dress, who shortly after she and I said hello went and asked me flat out if I was looking for a GF!! !

With her being a nice looking, single, girly and romantic girl, I could only say one thing...

YES!! !

After a few weeks we got to know each other, as it happened she's often been hurt in the past but she's 100% in love with me as I'm the first boyfriend who has treated her nice,regardless of her ADHD, which I think makes her quite cute as although she's no bimbo she has a sweet, bubbly and childlike attacude that makes her all the more attratve.

Already we are planing on living together when we both feel that the time is right.

Goodbye Till Next Time.

Wow, you got VERY lucky there!

Tip: try not to make the rest of us so envious!

Congratulations and good luck!

What kind of tips?

congrats dude! I say just enjoy the ride.

Tip: You're the one with the girlfriend, maybe you should be giving out the tips.

don't be an ass, and you should do fine
other then that, just enjoy yourself

Thanks for your replys, sorry I took so long getting back to this one.

Don't worry I try not to make all you singles out there unhappy as I know what it's like.

And yes this is for real!! !! !!

Goodbye Till Next Time.

Ok tips... maybe as a married aspie I can help here!

1. Don't profess undying love on the 1st, 2nd or even 3rd date. It sets off every internal warning in girls and sends them running for the exits.
2. Don't "always" be available, keep having a social life with your friends etc, you want her to know she's an important part of your life, but not the only thing in your life.
3. Don't lie, even a white lie, She'll know.
4. Play around a bit, not in the sexual sense, but don't be too full on with the compliments. If she asks how she looks, be honest, if you can't be positive, be funny. Eg, If she asks "does my bum look big in this" say something like "compared to...?" but quickly smile so she knows you're joking. Keep her on her toes, don't be predictable. I found that it was far easier to get 2nd, 3rd, 4th dates when a girl couldn't figure me out. Intrigue is a wonderful thing
5. This is a tough one, if she knows you have Aspie (and with that some OCD behaviour) let her know it's controlled, instead of calling her 100-200 times a night you can keep it down to 10-20 if she prefers. You need to be able to laugh at yourself some times. I used to be a compulsive txter, if a girl I was dating didn;t message back in 10-15 mins, all sorts of rubbish flew around in my head. Now I'm the opposite, I seldom reply to txts and don't need to know where my wife is 24/7.

If you want suggestions on how to "behave" check out books by David D'Angelo, a lot of it is rubbish but there are some great pointers in there.

Only other thing I can suggest don't leap into bed on date 1! In my mid 20's I had a nasty habit of going from date to bedroom in the first week, oh and it's inappropriate to move from a girl to her flatmate, but that's another story.

Hope this helps!