[edit] more I'M ruining our relationship, not him.

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Original post: It's going to sound really bad but: he's just too nice now.
I like to be challenged and stood up to when i'm (unintentionally) being difficult. - How else am I suppose to know that i'm being that way?

Now he just tells me he 'understands' and it's 'okay'.
He used to tell me I was being unreasonable and things like that, and it helped - and I told him this and he says he doesn't like to say those things to me because I always used to look hurt - and maybe I am for a little, but then I think about it and realise he's right and I was being unreasonable.

I don't know how to tell him I can't stay in love with a person who always agrees with me and lets me do whatever I want.

What should I do?

Edit: i've come to realise it's more i'm not used to a nice guy + it's nothing to do with him.

You should tell him that you feel this way. I'd leave out the bit about falling out of love for now, though. It may yet be a correctable problem.

Sounds like something switched on in his brain, and for the first time, he actually cares about you... your wants and desires, your opinions and feelings, etc... He now has a personal stake in this relationship, and wants to see it succeed. I personally believe that you should be happy about that, but it's your life. Try and relay your point across to him about this (you may want to try relationship counseling as well).

He's always cared about me - I always felt like he cared more when he would get angry when I would do some stupid things - now he just tells me he understands.

I think it's my problem completely - I know I should prefer him this way, I do. And, partially I feel like i'm just being stupid, and spoiled because he's the model partner - but I don't deserve that. I deserve for him to tell me when i'm being unreasonable - and he deserves to be able to do that, he shouldn't have to tip-toe around me when i'm being unreasonable and stupid.

He is a fantastic guy. Every other guy i've been with has been abusive - and I can't accept that this one isn't. It's just so alien to me.

Ugh. I don't know why i'm so screwed up in the head - why can't I just keep enjoying it instead of thinking he must have some other motive for being so nice to me all the time?

<facepalm>

It's mentality like this that makes nice guys finish last. At this point, I wouldn't know what to recommend you. If you're going dump him, do it sooner, rather than later, before he gets too attached. If you're going to stay with him, don't withhold any physical affection you used to give him, like hugs, kissing, etc. Otherwise it's no different than a friend zone for him.

I know - it's a stupid viewpoint. My head is screaming at me that i'm crazy, but my heart just can't tolerate the overtly nice guy.

He's already very attached - we both are. We live together and wake up and go to sleep together every day.
I love him very much - but everytime he's really nice, I just feel it a little less - then i'm apart from him while he/i'm at work I miss him terribly.

I don't understand why i'm feeling like this.

When he gets home today, I think i'm just going to tell him all of this and let him decide what to do.

Once again it is proven true that most women really do prefer jerks.

Always be honest. Let him know how you feel. Maybe he'll decide you're just not for him.

You really need to see a therapist about this then. One thing you need to know about nice guys is that once you lose him you will not get him back. Why would you want to be treated like crap?