Asking girl out ( works in a small retail store )

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Hi,

I was just after some advice on a good approach to ask out this girl (shes Korean ) who works in a small Korean Convenience / Grocery Store. Ive been in a probably 4 or so times in the last month when shes been working and i wanted to ask her out. She smiles alot and seems very friendly ( nothing like the other Korean girls that work at this store ). I haven't really dated much (im 21) so i don't really know if shes interested or not but i want to give it a go anyway. The store is normally pretty empty so it could easily just be me and her in the store. I figured i should try to get her away from the Counter and have her help me pick some things out perhaps and ask her out then ?

I guess im just after some general advice on if that sounds like a good approach or not and if i should ask her on a date or for her phone number instead ? Sorry im a little lost lol.
And i guess if i get lucky and she says yes im not to sure whats a good first date , like what / where to ask her out to since i don't actually know her well enough to no of something she would be especially interested in.

Thank you for your help.

Andrew.

Forget using the cheesy pick up lines, don't put up a facade of confidence because you won't truly feel comfortable in yourself if you do. Just make general brief relevant conversation, don't do anything too drastic or start talking obsessively and deeply about a fixed subject. Just be friendly and don't show any signs of sexual interest until you've built up a good social bridge and can engage well with her.

Say you're going to a event relevant to her interests or for a coffee and ask if she would like to come along rather than begging for her to come or showing signs of desperation. Also if you do get her number, don't expect her to reply or invest too much emotion in it, some girls are flaky, don't take it too personal.Even the top guys who are pick up artists get rejected 30-40% of the time.

The above is good advice.

And if you get a no - take it well, make light of it, and retreat. They are always a little awkward so don't stand around and chat.

Thanks alot for the advice, ill give it a shot. When you talk about building up a social bridge are you talking about doing this all on the 1 meeting and then ask her out ? Or your saying do it over a few visits ?