Where all the aspie WOMEN at?

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Im not all too keen on the whole online dating bit. There is some unethical underthing about it, that just eats at me.

But in any case, where are all of you aspie women hiding all the time? I never met one, [only one i suspected was undiagnosed], but I go to and art college in SF. One would think it would be easy? Apparently not.


SO. back to the original topic.
where and what are all of you aspie women doing? where are your fave hang out spots, interests, and the such.

We're probably doing the same things as Aspie men. But maybe that's just me.

I'm married though. And guess where I met my (also Aspie) man?

Online.

There's NOTHING wrong with online dating. In fact I had a MUCH better time with that than trying to meet men that were compatible with me randomly throughout my day as a college student, at work, etc... I got SO sick of the games and such. Men kept assuming I was dumb because I am pretty and I'm absent-minded. They were mistaking me being inside my head all the time as me being dim. Then they'd find out I wasn't, and would get all intimidated or weird about it. I said screw it and made myself a painfully honest profile. I didn't know I was an Aspie yet, but looking back all the stuff I put about myself and what I wanted in a man...well, I might as well have said, "Hey! Aspie chick here! I want an Aspie man!" LOL

Anyway, I got to screen out all the a-holes and weird (not in a good way ) jerks. Went on a couple dates. Nothing special. Then this great guy found me, because he bet his friend he could find attractive gamer girls. And he found me We've been together 6 years now, married for almost 2 and we have a wonderful baby boy.

IMHO, online dating was the best thing for me. Maybe not for everyone, but I don't see the harm in trying.

You can meet them anywhere. I usually find them online, though.

Finding one who has the same interests, beliefs, and sex drive as me is nearly impossible.

Um, the sex drive thing is a common problem in any relationship. Many men complain that most women they find do not have the same sex drive. that is a gender difference, Aspie or not. Not to say that all women have lower sex drives then men. Sometimes it is the other way around. I think it can depend on the individual and what is going on in their life at the moment.

Also, an individual's sex drive can change throughout life. it can go up and down, even on an hourly basis. If you want to eventually find a life partner (not just a temporary sex partner) one needs to accept that and not determine the entire validity of the relationship on the sex drive at any given moment.

assuming it isnt online. [I havent tried, it just makes me nervous for some reason], Gigi, you were/are a gamer. so basically, I should try to find a cyber cafe, or something else I would probably be already doing?
So find me a quirky girl just...kinda...right around my intrests?

sex drive isnt an issue for me. Just personality. [and base standards]. sex sorta just happens when it happens. not really too zoned in on that one.

However, online would be worth a shot. It just feels so wrong to me, Like i need someone, when i really dont.

really, Im just kinda intrested in finding a nerdy quirky gamer girl, and seeing if things would go anywhere....just got no clue where they are hiding.

The only one I found, just so happened to be convienently hidden in my dorm up here at college.

Artsy girls are nice too. just not indy hipster artsy. more like aspie quirky artsie.

Well...if online dating is a way to find em, where is a good idea to look?

I pretty much knew i was an aspie since I was four...but I work in severe extremes at times, and it usually isnt my fault it is like that. [not like moody extremes, more like intense adventures and nefarious misdeeds]

grats on the marriage btw, Im glad some aspies hooked up hahaha

but seriously. Lets get some places listed out where you guys enjoy hanging out!
[both men and women here]

I am referring to the fact that the percentage of people on the spectrum who are asexual is higher than that of NTs.

And you can't tell an asexual person to stop being asexual.

Her and I play D&D btw, Thats how i met her HAHAHA

online dating eventually worked for me. used okcupid... it's free and i figure about as effective as pay sites.

nothing is 100% sure thing... but it's a good avenue to keep open.

gl!

thanks!

to be honest, its starting to cross my mind

You wont find most of the girls in the WP love and dating section. There are heaps of women and girls on here though, and people hang out in different places IRL regarding their interests.

Its all logic really.

You won't get a "nerdy gamer girl" as much on a dating site as much you would on a gaming community online.

If you want a gamer girl, participate in gamer communities. On all the gamer communities im pretty much all the girls (heaps) have hooked up with some or one of the guys from that forum. (Except me, I am not usually a fan of young geeky guys) but it's common to find gamers geeks there who WILL hook up and date other members.

intresting.
Like IGN and other gamer forums.


Logically that would be the smartest way...I cant believe that didnt already cross my mind!