Just how often do you guys date?

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I am wondering how frequently you guys are social with the underlying purpose of finding someone.

How often do you go on dates? Do you date a lot of people or are you selective?
How often do you put yourself in the position to get a date?
How often do you go out with friends or to a place where you are likely to meet someone?
Do you spend a lot of time with internet dating and social events for singles?
Do you rely on random encounters, or are you actively pursuing dating as part of your lifestyle?

I know I have difficulty in knowing what to do with myself. My dating life has hit a wall, and I am not sure if it is worth the bother trying to restart it. I don't want to go clubbing or partying even when the opportunity is there. It seems like you get to a point when that stuff isn't interesting anymore. I know once you get done with education there is a gigantic difference in the dating world. You just don't get the chance to get to know someone well enough. You can't make up for poor social skills when you've only got one chance to hit it off with someone. The size of my potential dating pool has shrunk to maybe 10-15 people among the people I see regularly, and most if not all of those are people I could not see myself getting together with. Do people reach a point where they end up settling for someone, or accept being alone?

Merry Christmas everyone. I might be gone for a few days, but the new year is a traditional time to make changes and I thought I might get some input.

Personally, I could never just give up.
I've been rejected and used and hurt countless times - but if i'd given up i'd never have found someone who accepted me.
Gotta keep getting back up on the horse if you want to find someone.
It's not easy, and it won't just fall into your lap.
It takes time and effort, heartache and heartbreak, but in the end - it's worth every second.

I no longer date. When I was dating, it was about 1-3 times a week. That got pretty exhausting, as you might imagine!

I've only been on one date, and even that is debatable; I'm not sure the woman was aware that it was supposed to be one.

This is a false dichotomy. I've dated almost nobody but I would date most women in my peer group if I felt I had the opportunity to do so.

I'm not sure what is precisely meant by this. I consider myself to be in a position to get a date if I am having a private conversation with a woman who I am interested in and who I know is single. That said, this combination of events doesn't happen very often these days.

Not very often. I guess I should mention that I'm a postgraduate student staying in a foreign country where I don't speak the language. All social opportunities are in the form of nights out with other people from my classes. The great majority of people in my classes are male. Most of the women in this peer group are taken. Even in those nights out I am often not able to attend due to being busy, being tired after a hard day's work, or being preoccupied by migraine headaches that occur at least every weekend.

No, never. Maybe next year during my "gap" year where I am not pursuing a PhD.

I feel as if I am not ready for a random encounter; I would assign too much meaning to it. That said, I would think it folly to turn down an opportunity that quickly presented itself. I imagine that if one thing were to turn into another in the space of one evening I would panic and would either say or do something to put off the woman involved, or not be able to maintain an erection.

You may have to look harder and in a wider variety of places than you did when you were in college. Find new social outlets wherever you can (and new friends which can introduce you to said outlets), sign up to (free) dating sites and personals, join clubs.

How often do you go on dates? Do you date a lot of people or are you selective?

I havent dated for a while(had some issues took a break and now Im trying to start again but Im more focussed on fixing my issues right now). When I dated I was quite selective, I never tried to go out with someone that wasnt on my league but I only asked girls out if I felt some sort of connection so it was about 1/2 girls a year. Ive been afraid of rejection for quite a while so I only asked a girl out if I was fairly certain she would say yes(Im aware this a reduced my chances of getting a date and Ive been meaning to change that).

]How often do you put yourself in the position to get a date?
How often do you go out with friends or to a place where you are likely to meet someone? [/b]
That depends. I dont usually like going to big social gatherings but over the past year Ive been to quite a few. A couple of friends and I have started to go out to a bar to see important soccer matches for example(this may not sound like the greatest way to meet women but this summer for example we met two good looking females).If any of my friends comes up with a somewhat interesting social event Im in unless Ive got more important to do at the same time

Do you spend a lot of time with internet dating and social events for singles?
Ive done that kind of things in the past and at the start there was an improvmement but after sometime I got stuck(Im usually hesitant to meet someone I met online IRL and I didnt have that many chances of doing so either).
Right now I tryto expend sometime around females that I wouldnt date(way older than me /taken by one of my best friends for example),Ive noticed this somehow helps with overcoming the shyness I experience talking to females and they dont mind talking to me every now and then.

Do you rely on random encounters, or are you actively pursuing dating as part of your lifestyle?
At this stage Im more inclined to random encounters, Ive tried the whole pursuing for a date but I came across as way to needy/creepy and so far I havent had any complaints about the change.

Merry christmas to you as well, over the past I never understood the whole trying to make changes at the start of the year but this year Ive been thinking about making changes as well.

I think hes asking how much do we go out to places where you are likely to meet women with the only purpose of meeting them.


Not very often. I guess I should mention that I'm a postgraduate student staying in a foreign country where I don't speak the language. All social opportunities are in the form of nights out with other people from my classes. The great majority of people in my classes are male. Most of the women in this peer group are taken. Even in those nights out I am often not able to attend due to being busy, being tired after a hard day's work, or being preoccupied by migraine headaches that occur at least every weekend.[/quote]
In my opinion this would be a great answer for the previous question.

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Ever since the kid was born I am lucky if we get out twice a year. The key is finding ways to "date" without leaving the house.

I go on one date about every 18 months or so. In between, I just don't meet any single women.


Technically, I've never dated anyone. I'll go out with a girl and either I don't meet her standards or she doesn't meet mine.


This is hard to define. I pursue my hobbies and interests which often means leaving the house, but they typically only attract other guys. If a girl was there that I was interested, I'd probably talk her up but that has yet to be the case.


I don't really have friends that I go out with.


I've tried internet dating, that's where I've met most of the one off dates I've gone on over the last several years. Typically, I've had bad luck with it since I don't really have any pics of me to put on a profile and I have trouble writing an "interesting" or "attention grabbing" profile. Most people probably read mine and click next.


Random encounters is pretty much what it's going to take for me to meet anyone. I've had ok luck meeting women and talking to them, but they've just always been engaged or married without wearing their ring at the time.


I've pretty much accepted that I'll be alone. I didn't go to a traditional college so I didn't even have that experience to practice socializing. I pursue my hobbies and interests and unfortunately, they don't attract women. Same with my job. There's a couple of older, married women in the department, and about 17 other guys.

It sounds like most of us are in the same situation. You pretty much have a limited pool and have to hope that you meet up with the right person at the right time. It is a wonder how anyone finds anyone under these circumstances.

I do need to expand my activities to where I have more of a chance of meeting someone. I think you have to try to get the percentages and odds in your favor, no matter how unromantic that might be. I wonder what woman do today besides work or go to school? I do a decent amount of stuff already, but maybe it is time to break out of my rut and try something different, as long as I don't burn myself out with trying to socialize too much. Sometimes, I think my efforts and time might be used more constructively, since the success rate isn't all that high from my perspective. Could be meant to have better luck in my next life, who knows.

I haven't been on a date in two years. I date one person at a time, and I would be kind of selective, but I can't really afford to be. (I'm an Aspie with physical disabilities, asexual, and quite hideous.)
I really have no idea how I'd go about getting a date. I'm not really interested in dating, but in relationships.
I don't have any friends, and don't think someone I met in person first would work out, as ugly as I am.
Don't do internet dating (anymore).
I'm not really pursuing it, though I desperately want to be with someone. I have no idea who would want me.

I have yet to go on a date.

The advice I'm usually given is to find this strange, mysterious, yet somehow wonderful place simply refered to as "Out There". Apparantly, if I ever get there, my life will be better.

I haven't been on an actual "date" since I was like 17. No interest whatsoever. I meet girls occasionally in happenstance manners and it seems to work out well enough like that (since that last "date" [which ultimately went nowhere] I've had three girlfriends for a total of 6 1/2-ish years, including the current one which has only been like 5 months).

I have infinite patience and little tolerance for starting from square one with the middling superficial "dating" crap. It's pretty much the worst ever.

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I do not and have never actively looked for romantic partners, so my answers are probably kind of useless, but here they are, anyway.

Incredibly rarely and very selective, respectively. I average about one dating partner per year.


I'm not really sure what this means, but I think the answer is "rarely" or "occasionally."


I go out with friends about once a week, but never to a place where I'm likely to meet someone.


No, none.


I rely 100% on random encounters.

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I hate to throw a spanner in the works.

But please explain to me the concept of this "dating" business. I'm somewhat confused what it means in a 21st century context.

I don't recall i've ever gone out with someone with the label of the activitity i'm engaged in being described as a "date" so I could do with clarity WTF are you guys are on about half the time.

When I hear that word used in this context I think of some corny americain film depicting the 1950's with a young couple going off to a Drive-in theater to get their mack on so to speak (thats a cockney euphamism for sex incase your wondering)