What is a "Date"?

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Is it a "date" when a guy asks a girl out and they both get dressed in their best clothes and try to pretend that they are cooler than they really are?

Is it a "date" if I say to a girl at work "Some of us are going out for a drink. Do you want to come?"

What if I have been seeing a girl for a few months?
I call to say "Hey do you want me to bring around a video and some Chinese food?"
Is that a "date"?

What about the "rules" that say that you may or may not kiss on the first date but if you have three dates then it is time to have sex?

I think different people have different view points. Some people see just hanging out as having a date. For me, a date is the intention behind it. Am I attracted to the person I am getting to know? Do I see potential for a romantic relationship?

1. Yes to the first question.
2. Maybe--but most likely not in a romantic sense
3. Could be considered a date.

I would say that a 'date' is when you make a specific plan to do something (I think this usually involves going "out")
I would think the second situation as hanging out, or just a platonic social thing (unless you have interest in the co-worker, and then this could be a nice starting point to get to know her in a less intimidating way than a typical "date" (one on one)
The third situation could also count as a date, or it could be considered "hanging out"

I don't particularly subscribe to any dating "rules"...I think you should do what is comfortable for you and your date. That may involve a kiss on the first date, or not. I think sex after three dates is a bit early, but maybe that's just because I want to be sure the person I share my bed with deserves to be there, and is not just after sex...but that's just me!

I've never seen one before, no one has. But I'm guessing its a white hole

A "date" is when two people in a relationship spend time together for its own purpose. That could be just going out for a coffee, seeing a movie together, or even just staying in and enjoying each others' company. As long as it's a relationship, it's a date...

So is it a "date" if the guy you have been seeing for two years says he wants to go car shopping and do you want to come along?

Or the girl says can you come and help me paint my bathroom on the weekend?

bad choice of words on my part in the end there... I did say "spend time for its own purpose", the point being that the purpose of getting together is just to spend time together, not do something like paint the ceiling. That said, when I was with my ex, I learned to appreciate what little time we had together, no matter what we would happen to be doing at the time (most of the time it involved a rehearsal of some kind).

There aren't set rules for what a date is. Any of those things listed could be considered a date...the second one would depend on the context of the relationship.

Some people have their own rules, like it's only a date if you go "out" somewhere, it's only a date if the guy pays, etc. But no universal rules. I personally prefer things like going to a museum for a date than going to dinner. For instance, the last date I went on we went geocaching.

I get what you people are saying, it just seems a imprecise term.

If people have been out hundreds of times or perhaps they are even living together then it would sound silly for a girl to say "I have a date tonight. Bill and I are going to get a pizza and a video to take home with us".

To me the first one or two times you see a new person it might be a date. After that you are just hanging out with your good friend that you are comfortable with.

I agree completely. Some people see a date as simply when a girl says yes when you ask her out for a cup of coffee. I mean, unfortunately its generally implied that there is a romantic interest involved, just like when a guy goes up to a bar.. and talks to the lone girl in a crowd full of men is considered "hitting on".

It is an imprecise term. I've had trouble in the past getting people to definitievely draw the line between getting to know a member of the opposite sex you haven't met before, one-on-one, and dating said person. Even so, there seems to be universal agreement on when it is a date and when it isn't, so they must be a line somewhere.

For me, if the two people aren't in a relationship then it's just platonic socialising. For example, this is a date:

Boy: "Would you like to be my girlfriend?"
Girl: "YES!! !"
Boy: "Great!! How about dinner at 5pm on thursday at <restaurant name> ?
Girl: "Yep."

This is not a date:

Boy: "Would you like to meet up for lunch?"
Girl: "Yes."
Boy: "Cool. <restaurant/cafe name> on saturday afternoon?"
Girl: "Yep."

Apparently this isn't correct, but I've yet to see it happen differently in real life.

People are a little pedantic about what a date is. My definition is spending some time with someone to learn if you want to spend some more time with them for purposes more than purely friendship.

But isn't that something you'd find out anyway, by spending time with them in the first place?

Funny how you assume everyone on the world is just trying to act cool or something.
Some people really don't give bout such things you know = /

Only the ones who want to attract a member of the opposite sex.

You are not going to make a good first impression if you turn up with dirty hair and clothes and act like a jerk.

Even a jerk with half a brain knows that he should try to make a good first impression.

not all girls like the "Lost MC"