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07 Jan 2011, 6:06 pm

It's seeing other people happy together, knowing that you'll never be able to experience that kind of happiness for yourself, for the rest of your life...

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07 Jan 2011, 6:09 pm

:roll: Cheer up!

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07 Jan 2011, 6:13 pm

Yes, it's depressing for me too, even though I haven't always been alone. But you can't assume you'll never have that. There's still lots of time.

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07 Jan 2011, 6:14 pm

bee33 wrote:

Yes, it's depressing for me too, even though I haven't always been alone. But you can't assume you'll never have that. There's still lots of time.

Exactly.
Never say never.
It's just depressing and pointless.

edit: sorry i'm having a bad day.

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07 Jan 2011, 6:33 pm

C'mon Toad. Teenage angst doesn't last forever. Smile

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07 Jan 2011, 6:35 pm

emlion wrote:

:roll: Cheer up!

Bit harsh, I hate when people say that to me, people with depression can't just "cheer up".

Toad, the only thing stopping your is your lack of desire to make a go of your life. If you concentrated less on a partner, and more on getting more interests, and do what I said years ago and get a part time job one day a week at a place thats female dominated you might feel a little happier.

I have a few questions: Have you finished studying yet? And do you have a lot of friends? Has your doctor put you on a suitable anti depressant yet? Because I think it would improve your quality of life.

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07 Jan 2011, 6:36 pm

Michigan football!?

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07 Jan 2011, 6:37 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

emlion wrote:

:roll: Cheer up!

I know, i did apologise in my next post. sorry.
bad day makes me angry/sad whatever. which is ironic.

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07 Jan 2011, 7:01 pm

Yeah I know how you feel. I have had exactly one girlfriend...and she turned out to be a stalker with emotional problems.

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07 Jan 2011, 7:14 pm

emlion wrote:

edit: sorry i'm having a bad day.

Don't worry about it, I'm kinda having a bad day too, as you can kinda tell from the OP...

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07 Jan 2011, 7:25 pm

techstepgenr8tion wrote:

Michigan football!?

Well...maybe there are some things worse than that...er, I dunno...hmmmmm...

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07 Jan 2011, 9:19 pm

I know exactly how you feel, I have says like that, even recently.

Irrational pessimism is just as silly as irrational optimism, but you know that already.

What helps me is the thought that things could change in an instant, every time I walk out of the house there's a tiny possibility that today might be "the day".

Sure, the odds are long, but it only has to happen once - then you'll have a whole new set of things to be depressed about... :wink:

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07 Jan 2011, 10:13 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:

It's seeing other people happy together, knowing that you'll never be able to experience that kind of happiness for yourself, for the rest of your life...

You think its bad at 22, when in reality, you are at the begining of your life, with plenty of time to be proved wrong, still with a vestige of hope.
Wait until you're nearer the end of your mating life, when even hope is gone, and you now know for sure your remaining couple of decades are to be spent in complete isolation, knowing the only person who will feel bad about your death, is your next door neighbour when he complains about the flies and the smell of rotting flesh, then come back and complain.

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08 Jan 2011, 3:19 am

I know that I'd decided that I wasn't cut out for LTRs and was settling into a life of bachelorhood punctuated with short flings when I met my wife; just goes to show how unpredictable life is. Much like job hunting, I found that approaching dating less like I was hoping to be accepted and more like I was the one doing the scrutinizing really made a difference, it comes off as confident rather than desperate.

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08 Jan 2011, 10:09 am

Dox47 wrote:

Much like job hunting, I found that approaching dating less like I was hoping to be accepted and more like I was the one doing the scrutinizing really made a difference, it comes off as confident rather than desperate.

Well, I mean, to me it just seems like doing that is shrinking your pool of opportunities...

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09 Jan 2011, 6:01 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Well, I mean, to me it just seems like doing that is shrinking your pool of opportunities...

How well is your current approach working for you? If you're unsatisfied with your results you may want to reconsider your technique, even if on the surface it seems counter-intuitive.

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