So worried...

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I met the most fantastic girl, through OKCupid. Our interests, our likes and dislikes synced up like no one I've met before, and she was so beautiful! We had a great first date, and ended with the most magnificent kiss I've ever had (actually, several kisses).

It went perfectly, and afterwards I 'd tried to play it smart. I sent her a text telling her what i wonderful time I'd had, and that I hoped we could do it again. She sent a reply which reciprocated. A few days later I called her to chat, but it wound up being short because she was watching a movie with her fam. Fair enough. But that's been over a week now. She hasn't been online to chat, and hasn't returned my last call.

I'm worried I'm losing her, if I haven't already. She was so incredible, and I wanted to get to know her better. And I'm so afraid, because I've never made it past the first date. Never had a second date with anyone. So I'm in unknown territory, faced with the probability of just repeating the same ole thing, being kicked to the curb.

I'm really getting to hate dating. All the judging and no willingness to be open. I'm sure open to people, because I'm eager to get to know people. But how can I when they don't want to get to know me? One date seems to be all it takes. How can you learn ANYTHING about a person in one date? It's not like I wanna rush. But it'd be nice to hang out, to gradually know one another, and the girls I've met all seem to reject that. Pathetic.

Man, if this doesn't work out, I'm done. I'm gonna quit trying. I can already feel the precious creative energy lost by thinking about this girl, and what could be, which could've been devoted to my film work. If this doesn't work out, I'm swearing off the insidious drug that is woman, and devoting myself fully to my work. Like a monk. Gonna be through trying to reach other people on an interpersonal level, and try to reaching them through the films I make. That's been the only way I've reached people in the past without being misunderstood. Gonna focus on that, and not wasting my time on people who refuse to see beyond my eccentricities, my unassuming looks, my relatively small income and bank account. And if any female comes along, THEY will have to get MY interest, not the other way around. And even then, I may not give them the time of day. Because it's just a waste. Got so many much more important things to do, and I've wasted too much time already.

Back to work. f**k relationships!

Now there's your problem. Beautiful girls know that they can afford to be very picky.

Text recommendation:

I'm looking to go out again and have not heard from you. Was a great meeting with you. I want to do it again and do so again soon. I'm looking for that special friendship in my life. Hoping you can be that flame but if not and I hope it's not the case I need to move on. Looking for love and want to know if I past your entry exam for the next step.

That kind of mentality works for me but I don't have these circumstances you are in and I am blunt in person such as saying I am a guy and a guy needs a lady. So let's get together or obviously I have to find someone else as you seem disinterested which is ok and well I'm a guy. This seems to neutralize the rejection or acceptance.

Sounds good?

Nathan Young

Congratulations, you've overcome one of the most difficult parts - making first contact. However, there are many women who join dating sites just for "dinner and drinks at nice restaurants, so you have to be prepared to encounter one or two or ... yeah, there are quite a few who like using it as a social outlet.



That's the problem. It's a dating "scene" where people go and mingle and try to find someone from the hodge podge of people. You may have been the first, you may have been the best, but you're probably not the last. Until there's a ring on it... and even then



You can't win unless you try. If you don't date, your chance of actually finding someone drops worse than a dead cat bounce in the stock market.



You may need a break and work will reward you (generally) the more you put effort and dedication in. A break is not really harmful and can do you good. She may be busy, one can never tell