Leaning towards retiring before i was anything

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I'm leaning towards retiring from the dating scene. Yes, I haven't gotten my foot through the door but i think of it as saving myself the pain.
Thoughts?

Perhaps by not looking, you will find what you're looking for. Maybe. Naw, but really, I don't know your situation. What is this "dating scene" of which you speak?

Basically a very shallow pool since nearly all the good looking girls are taken and even then a lot of them are Bi even though they prefer girls to guys. Also, they treat me weirdly because of the AS. My early attempts resulted in rejection after rejection even though most/all the girls were b*****s. I'm honestly just sick of the hassle and games of dating.

Aw, that stinks. [edit] Maybe it's good that you didn't get a date with them, then, if they were mostly b*****s. People are weird. [/edit] I never got those rules of "dating games." Sounds agonizing.

The whole "stop looking and you'll find someone" thing only works for NTs.

I think taking a break from the dating scene might be a good thing Allan. You pro says your 16; I wasn't interested in relationships or dating till I accidentally ended up in a realtionship & fell in love when I was 20 when I wasn't looking. I think I was much better off not being interested in relationships when I was younger. Relationships at that age ten to be more short term flings & an emotional roller-coaster.

You're just 16, so don't give up on people just yet. But I almost always think it's a fantastic idea to not worry about dating and look for other things you can enjoy, whether it's by yourself, with friends, or people who share your interests.

Not true. It worked for me.

The key isn't to be looking or not looking. The key is to stop thinking every single person is a possible option. Relax and realize that not every girl is a possible match. Just stay open-minded and it will come together.

It worked for me to but I think the key is to let it happen natrually. We were friends 1st & it just sort of happened. I ruined lots of friendships sense by asking for more

Well, certainly the best way to find someone is also the best way to find the remote.

But if you are 16, remember that high school girls suck big time. And high school guys are probably worse. Now is a good time to regroup. I wish I had that insight when I was 16.

I just don't get not only how they do it, but they make it look so easy.

Give it time.

People claim "women can smell desperation" and when you're searching, you're less likely to find. If you do things in your comfort zone, things you enjoy, you'll come across as much more likeable and approachable which helps a lot of people (e.g. shy, introverts, low self esteem) in their outward appearance.

When you search and constantly fail to find, you'll grow disillusioned and more negative (generally). A negative attitude is something many people can detect through body language and inflection.

So... Give it time, and take those one-off conversations with a grain of salt and enjoy them.