Overcoming Reverse projection

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Simply put, I don't see any reason to accept a date from a stranger (yes, that is IF a girl coming to me, which never happens). As a consequence, I don't see why I can successfully invite anyone for a date (I always consider the people doing this somewhat silly).

Really, how CAN this flirting thing happen?

Could you rephrase/elaborate?

I think that's just regular projection.

Also, flirting is not the same as asking someone on a date. Just talk about topics of mutual interest (if the girl in question is a complete stranger, you'll need to get to know her a little bit for this to work). That's interesting for both parties and can qualify as flirting. If you hit it off, invite the other party to do something. If not, don't. If you are terribly lacking in confidence and can't ask her to do something, you could make a casual suggestion, such as "We should [insert activity here] sometime," and gauge her response.

Ideally you should be asking girls out on dates only after you have made friends with them in a platonic way. This really does seem to be what works best for us Aspies.