"I wish I had a boy/girlfriend!"

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For pretty much the entirety of human history, loose women have been referred to as... well... loose. In recent years, we've begun to drift towards less sexist ideas of that sort of stuff (either there's no such thing as loose or guys can be considered loose, too). Personally, I don't think it's healthy to be sleeping around with a lot of girls or guys. This view seems to be shared by quite a few people, and even those that don't... well, people seem to not apply the rule evenly to people they're involved with.

So saying something like "I wish I was shtoinking somebody" is not usually considered acceptable, because the implication is that, when such a mood hits you, you're kind of... well... loose. Keep in mind that this doesn't tend to apply when talking about an individual.

But what about someone saying "I wish I had a boy/girlfriend"?

I was watching How I Met Your Mother today, and Robin (one of the characters) called Ted (the main character) an "I love you slut." I think that's kind of an appropriate term for people like that.

How did it get to be that serial physical relationships are considered to be a bad thing while serial emotional relationships are not? Instead of wanting a boy/girlfriend, shouldn't you want X person?

Now, people might say that the reason why, in this day and age, serial physical relationships are bad is because of sexually transmitted diseases. OK, sure. Nobody wants a STD.

...But what about the emotional equivalent? Just because you can't see a relationship transmitted disease on a blood test doesn't mean it's any less serious. Couple counselling often involves asking about previous relationships, and there's a reason for that: Problems and mistakes from past relationships can and will affect current and future relationships. Often times, these problems and mistakes stem from the problems and mistakes made in relationships before that. They're passed from person to person like a STD, only there's no sure treatment or cure. Couple counselling might help... and it may even make them go away. But it's never certain.

RTDs can be very damaging when you finally meet the person you want to spend your life with, and your life would never be as happy as it could have been without them.

Don't be a relationship junkie. Don't go looking for a guy just because he's there or a girl just because she's there. I know what it's like to invent a person in your mind and apply it to someone you know just so you'll have an excuse to want to be with them. Be careful that's not what you're doing.

Given that your whole point is for people to be more selective when it comes to sleeping with other people, I find it interesting that you chose to begin with your post with the fact that loose women have been referred to as loose for pretty much the entirety of human history.

Of all the relevant facts you could've begun your post with.

Boyfriend/Girlfriend =/= Person you sleep with.

Maybe you didn't read my post or maybe you didn't understand it. The point of my post was to talk about RTDs. R. Not S.

Agreed.

Might want to get your facts straight before you make a post like this.

As in...?

The STD one is a myth, you're just as likely to get something even if they're your first and you don't go with anyone else, unless both people are virgins.

Let's say there's a 10% chance of catching a STD from somebody. If you sleep with five people, that makes the probability that you WON'T catch a STD .9 * .9 * .9 * .9 * .9, or about 59%, making the chance of catching a STD from at least one of the five people 41%. The chance of catching a STD from each of them is 10%. The chance of catching a STD from at least one of them is much higher.

In the case of STDs, though, people who know they have STDs usually try to avoid passing them along (Edit: And condoms help with the probability as well). People with RTDs don't generally realize they have them.

thanks for the post, you think about things seriously.
I think STD is worse than RTD, because it affects one's physical pre-condition etc...
About the emotional issue: I think your view is kind of romantic. As harsh as it sounds, You might need all struggles, even RTD in order to break through to yourself. I loath these experiences as you do -so I already broke flowerpots on my head for that-, but with some distance in time, things seem to take their place in biography... There isn't just a thing which is "useless" or happens completely at random... (except broken flower pots, for our skull is tough!)

well I would rather sleep around because I don't connect emotionally with people very well
ask me who my first kiss was with, couldn't tell you cause I never got her name lol

It can go both ways, what if instead of getting an RTD you learn and grow in a positive way enhancing future relationships?

Barney must be really really screwed then. If RTDs don't get him, an STD will soon enough.

That's why I didn't say "Marry your first love and be with them the rest of your life." Just be careful who you decide to let into your heart. If you're letting someone into your heart just to have someone there, you're likely going to get a RTD. In a good relationship, with a good person, you don't get that, even if the relationship doesn't work out.



Actually... remember the episode where he finally confronts his first girlfriend? He got a RTD from her, and a bad one. I actually know someone that got a similar RTD.

But now... he doesn't get other RTDs because he doesn't (before and after Robin) let anyone into his heart. Instead, he passes the RTD along.

If someone actually wanted to be my girlfriend, I'd be happy. But that isn't the case, so I'm not. It's not a case of wanting loads of relationships, it's the case simply wanting a relationship.

That's my view, anyway.

Heh, I don't have any past relationships that could screw up any future ones with whatever.

I'm so cognizant of the tradeoffs of just having "anybody" that I CAN'T have 'just anybody'...but neither do I know who I want.

I think one major difference between STDs and RTDs is that you can get an RTD without ever being in a relationship.

Why are RTDs largely ignored by society? Because they aren't as tangible as STDs. NTs often accuse us of black and white thinking, but when it comes to relationships and sex, NTs are very black and white thinkers.