Grrr, argh.

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I'm depressed. Now, this is not somethign out of the ordinary. Normally I wouldn't speak on it. But the fact reamins that I am depressed.

At least more so than usual.

Quite recently I met a girl, pathetically enough, through a dating site. We chat online for a while, get to know each other a bit. Everything seems to be going well, we have quite a lot in common in fact. Then last night one of the other guys she's looking at for a relationship stands her up. So I go along with ehr need to get out of the house and we hit up a diner at like midnight. Nothing special, just midnight breakfast and some chatting.

Then today we finally talk again. And while apparently I didn't make a bad impression or anything, she thinks that we didn't 'hit it off' and that we're not compatible 'in person'.

It's just kind of wtf? Is anything going to go my way this year? At least that's what it feels like. I honestly don't know what to do, I feel like I'm going to have to give up on ever being in a good relationship and end up being alone for the rest of my life. I know that sounds pessimist, but that's how I look at life because it never seems to happen any other way.

Anyway, rant over. I need to go to bed.

Girlfriends are overrated, anyway. Find a good dog.

...I hope you're not implying what I think you are. That's just wrong.

No I think he means get a puppy, as their companionship is much more reliable than a significant other's. I don't think he was implying anything sexual.

Too bad I'm severely allergic to dogs.

And no they aren't overrated, I've had them before after all.

Nothing wrong with that, it's normal to be peeved and depressed when you have been rejected, but then you are unlikely to be compatible with everyone. I have dropped plenty of girls after one date because we didn't hit it off or there was no spark. The trick is to get in first and drop them before you do so you dont feel like crap.

It might hurt now to be rejected, but things will be ok with you in future! Trust me.
This is what the dating game is about, to give people the chance to say no to one another before you make too many commitments to one another.
I do not want to talk the pain away. I am sad things did not work out for you. You now have gained some more life experience. Analyse, learn, keep your head up, and trust me, there is a girl for you somewhere!

I certainly wasn't implying anything sexual! (although that is funny! )

I was just kidding around, hoping to cheer you up. I guess I'm not too good at that!

You must feel like how I do. So miserable I turn up to work early just to be with my workmates even though I don't get payed for it. My other workmates can't understand why I would rather come early to a slightly manky, excotic-fly infested portacabin near a smelly skip, but it is better that then spending the morning by myself.

I gave up actually persuing trying to meet" someone" for about 7 years, I wouldnt have turned down a date if I had been approached by the right person but no one approached(I've been told I look angry ,which I seldom am or Like my dog died...which I dont own)....I did have an "exboyfriend with Privledges" so ,I wasnt totally lonly and I enjoyed the break from the stresses of relationships where the person trys to change me...4 years ago I went on a "friendship" site looking for someone to chat with and left a "profile" that was as honest as I could be, including many of my "preverse" likes and odditys....ie....looking for a jewish looking buddhist who likes books and thriftstores, doesnt mind my tattoes, punk music,dumbster diving,obsessive collecting,lack of make-up,liberal ranting,fear of driving and social settings and wont waste my time or yours by trying to change me...

This may sound abserd to some...and the resposes weren't overwhelming but of the 4 I got I met someone who met all the criteria and we have been together for 4 years....first relationship in my 42 years that hasnt made me wont to bail after the first year! I really recommend being very honest and specific when trying to meet someone.....I think its better to weed out potential disappointments (theirs and yours),then end up with a bunch of dead ends.I think this only works if you are "fairly" content with your own life.

I know it sucks, believe me, I know how much it sucks, but its not your fault, or her fault. The heart wants what the heart wants, no one can force themselves to have feelings for another, isn´t that what makes love special? Try not to take it personally because its not, if you do, it´ll just be harder to open up the next time.