Why should I just get "laid"

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I'm looking for a long-term relationship. All the people at work said I should just get "laid"


I really just want to get a serious partner right now.



Is there really anything wrong with that at 23?

The people at your work are idiots. There's nothing wrong with that.

Agreed. Not even a consideration.

If I had my time over i'd love to have saved myself for someone i actually loved.
definitely the best option - sex without feelings is worthless, imo.

There probably just fed up about you going on about it. and just thinking if your getting regular sexual intercourse you might be less inclined to bore them with your relationship difficulties.

Sadly thats not what your after and they dont have time to relate to your difficulties cause there at work and work is a place you go waste time in exchange for money which you kinda need in our socio-economic climate. So your work colleagues are people you might not neccesarily associate with and vice versa.

Well, if I am miserable because I can't get a girlfriend, I am going to spread to complain about it at work.


Not very mature

Personally, I've noticed that I get quite irritable and have a tendency to "snap" at people when I've not had sex for any significant period of time, and the "manual" option doesn't seem to ameliorate the condition. Once I managed to get into a sexual relationship, the problem disappeared.

Let me be clear, this is NOT an excuse/justification for casual sex. I have learned to recognize when I am in this state and make a conscious effort to "chill out" until I manage to find an appropriate/permanent solution. Sometimes I fall short of this, I once had a relatively minor tantrum at work resulting in a female co-worker quipping that I need to "get laid"

On a purely intellectual level, I strongly suspect that it's a legacy of evolutionary psychology: for the vast majority of our species existence, men were required to physically challenge other males for available females. When males were unsuccessful at this, the body would increase the level of aggression to make a successful outcome more probable.

Your opinion and perception is of course yours but I'm just looking for a way to counter argue that argument so I will just use your post. Sex with feelings is better than sex without feelings but sex without feelings is better than nothing. That's like saying you don't want a burger because it doesn't have ketchup...Just saying. I'm not trying to say go have sex with the whole world but for the love of God; this whole "virginity" thing whether its about "saving yourself" or being insecure that your a virgin is massively overplayed and is stupid and pointless...I say find a mix of what your body is saying and how you feel. Man can you imagine if I did that with burgers? I'd be one hungry kid...I guess its just one of the flaws (or positives depending on your thoughts) of an overdeveloped human emotion system, defiantly more so in females than males were originally "built" for said acts. But uh I guess I won't argue with you that's just my analysis and anyone is free to comment, argue, flame on about it.

To the OP; yes I agree I personally don't want to go around "getting laid" with completely random females (thought I do enjoy the chase it solidify's my enhancement of social skills) though I'm not about to counter that funny feeling in my pants because I have some insecurity with society's view of virginity or my false sense of awesomeness /partial sarcasm and seriousness

Nothing wrong with either your view or your workmates' views. Each to their own.

That's assuming that feelings are just the "topping" that you stack on top of the sex. I'd rather have an intimate but sexless relationship than casual sex...

I don't think I could do sexless, but I agree with the sentiment totally.
Random sex may seem like a good idea at the time, but once you experience the other kind, i think it's really, really regrettable.

Oh so your saying its like going from Percocet to Tylenol or a BMW to a bicycle? I gotcha either way if I'm in pain or need to get somewhere its better than nothing...that's metaphorical of course. I don't know if emotions are the "toping" I don't think I can make analysis past that but I will say this; sex came looonnnnnggg before what we call "relationships" in current times.

Yeah, I'm glad we discovered relationships. Oh wait, we didn't. Relationships have always existed alongside sex. Even when we were tree dwellers. It wasn't as large or as developed as it was now, but the two partners still had to choose eachother based on various factors. Just like today.

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Sex with someone you truly love is many times more pleasurable than some random person who you probably will forget in about a year. That's how I think, at least.

Last edited by Jonsi on 15 Jan 2011, 5:43 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Except they were far more less complex and simple in nature then.


Too lazy to find the part where I addressed this clearly showing I didn't doubt it.

Good job restating what I said before.

And that part wasn't directly addressed to you, my fault for not indicating that.

I think it's lovely that you'd like a serious partner. When they say that you should get laid, tell them that you do get laid...all the time... BUT you want more!!