Tips for my NT boyfriend

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While my relationship of a year is going quite well and my boyfriend is taking on my weird habits surprisingly well, I do wonder:


What are the BEST tips you guys can give a guy who's dating a girl* with Asperger's?




*The above is not limited to tips from straight, nt males. Every gender, autism type, sexuality, age, nationality, color preference, race, shoe size is welcome!

My boyfriend is NT and things got considerably easier when he read up on it.

Also when I started telling him exactly how I felt and stopped presuming he knew how I felt when I melted down.

The relationship between my wife and myself got a huge boost from reading Tony Atwood's book. I read it first and highlighted all the areas that spoke strongly to me and then she read it and did the same. We then sat down over several nights with a glass of wine and a fire and discussed what we read and how it applies to me and our relationship. This brought us closer and helped her to understand me better than I could have done without the help.

It depends on the guy and the girl. All relationships are different. I would say the best thing to do is what everyone here is saying, and that's for him to read about it, so that way he knows the difference between Aspergers and being cold and indifferent and a b***h. It's hard to tell the difference if he never learned what Aspergers is, or if the guy is an idiot, or both. I think a very important thing is to be up front about any problems there might be. That's whats great about Aspergers; people tend to be honest and straightforward. If both people can handle that, the relationship will probably go smoother.

I'm making my girlfriend read up on autism,as I think it will help our relationship.