Online Dating: Should I do it?

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I'm not sure if anyone else has a situation similar to mine but here goes, I'm a guy who doesn't really have a bias but my parents do, Sure I'm an adult, but as long as I'm under my parents roof, I have to abide by their ways.

They are rather traditional when it comes to love, and highly discourage online dating because of what has happened to their friends- be it some sort of fraud, or just plain murder. I can respect that from their point of view...but...

I'm one of those guys who even though is getting better at talking to women, still having trouble with the traditional way of doing things- Finding a girl, wooing her with whatever talent I have, asking her out on a date, telling her that I think shes pretty. These are small but at the same time very big, because I'm never sure if shes the right person or not, and most of the relationships I've been in people go the complete opposite way, like I'll get a relationship and it will be fine until we find out that we have different pathways, I'll be in Washington state and the school shes going to is in Colorado so she'll have to move, something like that.

So then there is online dating, that single beacon of hope that is shrouded in mystery. I mean I see it as a generally compatible way, but man the amount of horrible weight it carries with my parents, and by extension my colleagues, is quite troublesome.

So here's my little question, Should I do it? should I try online dating? Me, an Aspergian Male?

or should I just stick it out and keep trying the traditional way and pray that I might fond the right connection?

If I should try it, then what are some good sites to try out? I mean I keep hearing about so many bad experiences with certain sites, like

"Match.com robs people of their money," or "Online Booty Call is for shallow people who are going to hell" or something. and don't even get me started on "Facebook dating..."

Most people here use OK Cupid, I've had good luck with it - and it's free!

Good luck

Let's say you go behind your parents' back and start online dating. Let's say you meet the perfect girl. What are you going to tell your parents about where you met her? Even if you're okay with the little lie that seems harmless, are you then going to ask your new perfect girlfriend to lie to your parents, too? This is a tough trick to pull off and it's really not worth it.

I think you're better playing by your parents' rules and continuing to talk to them about broadening their views while you're under their roof. I assume they are loving, good parents who want the best for you; so, you should give them respect. This is their home so anyone you meet over the internet would eventually learn where you live, which is also where they live. Basically, if a loony tunes attaches to you, it puts them in danger, too.

It's so hard to meet people, especially with social anxiety, but I think you can hang in there. If you're still single when you're independent, you can explore different dating options. Until then you've got to honor your parents and wait until it's your roof so it can be your rules.

Do parents usually give that type of crushing love, kinda feels like python wrapping around you?

LOL Yes, the good ones do.

then I need to get out quick I have to become independent soon...

Yeah OkCupid has worked for me and a lot of other members here who have tried it.

Just try it and find out, there's not much risk. Don't lie to your parents about what you are doing, and observe reasonable precautions (i.e. don't give out financial information).

I am no expert, but I hear that living with parents does not make dating any easier even in the best of circumstances. If you're really serious, I'd be trying to move out.

hmm well alright....Hopefuly I'll be able to get my own place soon, I just gotta square away my finances

You could try asking your parents to set you up with someone or possibly an arranged marriage even

You're old enough so yeah. In the meanwhile, buy your mom some flowers. Honestly, not everyone gets parents who give a crap like that. Appreciate it.

No luck on ockupid, they live far too far away for me. I've done a long distance relationship before so has a member in the family, generally taxing and doesn't work.

Um, I wouldn't. Every time I have, it's been nothing but failure. For aspies it is a different story. Aspies tend to do better when it comes to face to face contact in some ways.

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