E-mail vs. MSN vs. Phone vs. ...

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Question:

If a guy wants to ask a girl if she would like to do something this weekend, and he only has her e-mail/MSN address, is it better to wait for her to come online on MSN and IM her, or is an e-mail kosher?

Or in future, should I have asked her for a phone number?

Depends what exactly 'something' is. Do you know her off the internet?

I'd like to know this as well--is it really better to ask for someone's phone number instead of their IM or email address?

well as i hate to speak on the phone i would wait for the said person to come online.

Nope, I know her from class. I already know her in person. It's summer though so I don't see her regularly right now.

It's totally kosher to send her an e-mail if she gave you the address.

being asked out in real life is the only way I would take seriously.

I would have had reason to regret that policy myself.

I've only ever asked one girl out on a date, but I'm gald I did it in person. There are some things you should experience for yourself in person, rather than living through a computer screen.

It wasn't easy though, well at least not until the words started coming out.

See, I did it by e-mail when I asked someone to prom over two years ago...and it worked. But I don't know what is best in general. Maybe I should just e-mail her - it's not like I can run into her in person easily without tracking her house down.

Hmm email but I'll pick in person better.

I would just simply send that person an e-mail.

Send her an email saying you want to ask her something, then you can avoid the lameness of asking for a date by email and lure her in with the mystery of what you will ask her, she will go nuts trying to work it out

Also, if she says no, tell her that's fine and that you will need to get moving to ask your second choice of date. Especially if you mention that it's her friend or some other girl she knows of and competes with, it might be enough to push her into changing her mind.
But only use this if she seems to like you but seems to not want to commit for sure and maybe mentions just wanting to be 'friends'. This means she's not sure if she really likes you yet, but wants to keep you around so no other girl can steal you in case she changes her mind and she thinks you will be one of those lame guys who does that. Girls like that need that push to help them make a decision, plus it shows you are not some clingy, weak, yes man, but someone who can think for themselves and wont put up with their mind game crap, chicks seem to dig that sort of thing.

I did that this morning, telling her to come on MSN tonight because I've got something to ask her. Had an e-mail back this afternoon saying she would be packing tonight (I'm guessing she's going to the beach/cottage for the weekend with her girlfriends), but asked me "what's up?". So I'll ask via e-mail.

I sent an email to that regard, and she has responded. Now if I can bring myself to open it. I get very nervous when it comes to this stuff.

Hmmmm.