how important are looks to you in a partner?

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I love "hot" girls... My dilemma is I have never had luck getting them! This is odd in a way, because I would consider myself to be a good match for a "hot" girl. I'm 6"2, muscular, nice eyes, have a well paying job, etc. I still have the AS downfalls though, and don't have many NT friends (so this probably affects my chances too).

I used to only want to date really attractive women, but I lowered my standards quite a bit so that I could actually get a woman. I'm not saying bad looking per-se, but average, and a few chubby women, "bigger", etc.

Right now I have a pretty cool NT girlfriend. She's 25, very intelligent (in her last year of veterinary medicine), and is not prudish (she loves sex). She is attractive, but definitely not one of the "hot" girls. Basically, she is looks-wise a good looking girl who is a bit bigger and could lose some weight.

My problem is, after all these years of no women and I finally get a girl who I can connect with on some level and wants to be with me, I still want a better looking one. Insane, isn't it?

How important are looks to you in your partner?

Quite a low importance. Though for men, I admit, they would have to be a little attractive for me to want to date one. :\

It's part of the whole. Good looks are a plus.

People always want more than what they have. Living in fantasies. It would be called insanity if it wasn't so prevalent. Your problem goes away when you simply give your attention to and enjoy what you have in the present. Love the one you're with. There's a lot of value in that old chestnut.

It's a minor part, but I'm a girl. I'd rather have an average looking guy and a great relationship over a hot guy and an average relationship. Looks fade with time. The stuff on the inside is what I want to spend the rest of my life with.

I notice looks are usually of more importance to men than women.

Unfortunately, a lot of men think more with the dangly thingy between their legs than the mushy, electrical thing in their head.

It's a big deal to me. However, if a girl is like 7 in my eyes and has a personality that is really compatible with mine, I'll take her over any girl that looks like a model.

Very important.

Obviously you have to be attracted physically to a partner, even if personality is more important it's that personality that would eventually lead you to see good looks in your partner, and appearance is the first thing you are attracted to in most cases. I am often attracted to the less attractive men, I like geeky guys or big guys who either have long hair or skin heads, I'd take these over Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp.

It's the personality that makes them attractive, but if there is not that attractive to you then it just doesn't work, I've gone out with some truly ugly people who I have been attracted to personality wise but looks wise it just didn't work...personality can't always override their plain ugliness.

It's important, but it's not the deciding factor. Meaning that if I had a choice between dating a supermodel who was a total b***h, an average-looking woman who shares my interests and has a great personality, and someone who's just ugly, then I'd go with door #2, the average looking woman. I've found that it's usually the ones who strive to obtain perfection on the outside that are less than perfect on the inside.

My current girlfriend, for example, is good looking but not exactly pageant material. But it doesn't matter, her physical imperfections are irrelevant because she's a really fun person who likes anime and games as much as I do and she actually cares about me. So while the supermodels are busy playing 15 guys at a time and not getting satisfaction from anyone, at least she and I will be together.

Not that important.

I'd rather be dead than date a shallow boring useless ars*hole.

I think your problem is the fact you're "full of yourself". you're obviously are not a "good match for them", are you? I hope your partner dumps you, I feel sorry for her, does she know you're constantly shopping for someone else?

I think it's important that one be physically attracted to their partner, at least initially, and I don't think you should be with someone you aren't really attracted to, or would leave for someone who is more attractive. It's not really fair to either of you.

On the subject of "hotness" and women, much of what most men consider to be hot, the woman pays a good deal of money on and it takes her two hours to apply that "hotness" in the morning.

In other words, that which you are judging a woman to be hot by, is typically makeup, hair style, and clothing, even if you don't realize this. Often, men pass up what are actually quite pretty women, if they are not made up in a form they can recognize as hot.
This is kind of silly, because any woman can get made up.

Modeling agencies realize this, and so when recruiting, generally want to see women without their makeup on or hair styled. They generally choose tall women with symmetrical and well proportioned features, and clear skin.

Here's an example of models with and without makeup.
http://www.femininebeauty.info/fashion- ... ans-makeup

Here's Mariah Carey without makeup.
http://www.hollywoodcelebgossips.com/20 ... s-picture/

So you see, most hotness is an illusion when it comes to women.

sexual attractiveness would be the glue that held me fast, and made me pneumatic. without it, it just couldn't work. a sexually attractive partner will have a body without any distracting obesity. this can be effected merely by diligent attention paid to diet and exercise. the hair might be reminiscent of a field mouse, the face might remind one of koko the gorilla, and the fashion sense might come from minnesota fats. but if the partner is kind AND has a zoomy body, none of the rest would matter one whit. unfortunately, it seems kindness is rare, especially paired with sexual attractiveness. if somebody is even remotely attractive, they know it and behave in a correspondingly mercenary fashion.

Bingo. A lot of men are extremely ignorant to this. A lot of men think girls get out of bed in the morning with pretty clothes, fake tan, jewellery, straightened and blow waved hair, and makeup.

I see one guy say "I don't like girls who wear make up"

And the next second he's drooling over a girl who is caked in makeup and dressups, yet he thinks she's "not wearing makeup".

I can use my flat mate for example. She wears fake tan all the time.
She said to one guys shes getting fake tan and he goes "don't use that you will go orange and ugly" but the stupid plonk doesn't realise shes got it on all the time, and he thinks it's her "natural" look and it's hot. Dumb ****.

Pretty important, but my opinion is different from most people's. Speaking of which, is it normal for a teenage boy to not have any idea what a good looking guy is supposed to look like? I see pictures of celebrities and I do not think they are good looking... males and females.

I honestly do not like makeup; I looked at that list of models without and with makeup and thought they looked better without (the left column right?).

The girl I have a crush on does not wear makeup (or at least not much), and I think she is one of the most beautiful girls I ever saw. I have seen other beautiful girls, some possibly better looking, but I prefer her, because she is smart and hard-working in class (unlike most of the good-looking ones) and nice (mostly from observing her talking with others, so I am not actually sure). She is also quite small and shy, and so I feel somewhat protective of her, which feels good in a strange way.

I have had other crushes on other girls mostly because of their looks, but I have never had a crush quite so strong as on this girl. She seems like my ideal girlfriend (although I have never had one).

Looks aren't important to me, whether I'm physically attracted to them is important.

If a guy is really good-looking by society's standards but I don't feel attraction to him, his looks are useless. There's been guys I wasn't attracted to at first but I found them to be physically attractive as I got to know them.