I'm beginning to think I'll never have a Boyfriend

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I'm beginning to think that I'll never have a Boyfriend. Guys like their Women to be Long-Haired Babes with soft voices who dress Sexy. They like their Women to wear Make-up all the time. They like their Women to be interesting. I don't have much in those departments. I'm a Short-haired Tomboy with a Cockney Accent that carries for miles who doesn't like to look Sexy, and forget about the Make-up. I don't like tight clothing. I'm also not very interesting, because I don't have much of a Life. I also have very strange interests for a Woman. I'm sure that if I did have a Boyfriend, that he wouldn't be impressed, if he was to walk into my Bedroom and see my toy Routemasters, all lined up, let alone hear me going on about what a great Bus she was. I don't think that guys see me as an interesting person.

You could always post a picture up.

You never know, you may find someone who is British Columbia-based that you like.

Yeah, a picture of you holding up a routemaster for us to see, and you with a big grin! How about it?

You just haven't been around the right guys

Oh, please, plenty of guys I know (myself included) dislike make up, and think that girls who "dress sexy" are really just "dressing slu*ty." And what's interesting and what's not is kind of a matter of opinion. Maybe there's someone out there with interests as "dull" as your own, heh.

Indeed.

I apologise, it's a somewhat crude way of saying it and I'm tired but you probably give quite a few men the horn without ever realising it, so don't worry. For the record, I don't much like make-up and all that stuff either.

There's someone out there for (almost) everyone.

Here is my honest feedback. I hope this is useful.


>>> Guys like their Women to be Long-Haired Babes

Not necessarily, it depends. Myself, I do like long hair on a woman, but some women also look very attractive with a short haircut. Possibly it works well for them because they have a feminine face, but I am unsure of the reasons. Also, the media is _not_ pushing an exclusively long-haired fashion, for example, click the following link to see actress Allison Mack (age 24) for 1 example of a short/shortish haircut that works well for her:

http://images.google.com/images?svnum=1 ... +Sullivan+

Having long hair is not a requirement.


>>> with soft voices

Does not need to be soft. A normal/average level is fine. However, excessively loud/raucous/boisterous is irritating and when in a restaurant, one should attempt to avoid speaking so loud that everyone in the restaurant hears. You can simply lower your volume if necessary.


>>> who dress Sexy.

Again this is not a requirement. You can be attractive by dressing very SMART instead of sexy. Smart casual, or more formal, or professional businesswoman, etc. I see plenty of women who are wearing clothes that reveal NO cleavage whatsoever, yet they have still dressed in an attractive / smart-looking manner.


>>> They like their Women to wear Make-up all the time.

I do not think so. Myself, I think the most attractive look is a minimal amount of makeup, and not all the time. A woman who has the whole makeup foundation-and-everything happening looks overdone to me. A minimal amount (such as maybe lipstick or eyeliner or both, but nothing else) looks good, or nothing at all is also good. Taking into account the particular occasion is also important.


>>> They like their Women to be interesting.

I cannot argue too much against this one. People do want to be interested in their boyfriend/girlfriend / they do not want to be bored. If you wish, you can make yourself more interesting, for example by starting some new hobbies, or reading more books, etc etc. You might even meet someone via your new hobbies.


>>> with a Cockney Accent

I do not know what British people think of a Cockney Accent so I cannot comment on that, but anyone foreign living in the UK or elsewhere would probably like the novelty of it. People tend to like foreign accents.


>>> I don't like tight clothing.

It does not need to be tight. Just reasonably well fitting. Not tight, but not loose/baggy either, and then you look smart.


>>> I'm sure that if I did have a Boyfriend, that he wouldn't be impressed, if he was to walk into my Bedroom and see my toy Routemasters, all lined up, let alone hear me going on about what a great Bus she was.

I do not see why this is a problem and I do not think men would be turned off by it (unless you talked their ear off about it / were excessively talking about it).

I did not know what a "Routemaster" was, but when I realized that it is the bus depicted in your avatar, I confess I was a bit amused, but not at all in a negative way. So I think it is fine that you have this interest and do not think that it will repel men from you.

I'm confused...her avatar suggests she is British, but you mention British Columbia. Have we a fellow Canadian here?!?!

Yes we do, Eh!

I don't want to spoil a good pity party, so I won't say you're wrong.

You can either laugh at me, or laugh with me. Either way....

Absolutely. It's impossible that you'll ever have a boyfriend. Serial murderers have people write them marriage proposals while in jail. People who are wheelchair-bound and can't move anything but their lips sometimes have relationships and marry. But you? YOU?? Inconceivable!!



There are no "guys". There are 2 BILLION distinct individuals of the male persuasion.

Some of them get off on having their toes sucked.
Some like really big women.
Some like women dressed as men, or men dressed as women, or men dressed as women pretending to be men.
Etc.

I'd say you're odds are good, if you really think about it. The women with the silky voices and slinky dresses are just what the advertisers sell us, and we've bought it, hook, line, and sinker.



Interesting women ... [shudders] I like my women interested, not interesting. "Interesting" means cheating, self-absorbed, neurotic. "Interested" means fun, excited. So ... Are you the interested type?



All right! Work it! Tell you what: you ever come to LA, you've got an automatic dinner date set up. (Assuming you're over 18, so that it isn't fantastically awkward.)

Say it with the cockney accent, boys! "Do I make you horny, baby?"



Tell you what: I won't say sh** about your buses if you don't say anything about my orchid flowers? Agreed?

Boyfriends are overrated. Get a good girl friend instead.

From what I hear, it sounds like you are quite a catch, for an aspie anyway and scientific oriented men. There is fare to many girly girls that would prefer high society dinners then hiking trip to Tibet.

The best way to be interesting is to encourage them talk about themselves because people like to talk about themselves.

Sometime we all get in a rut in life when we do the same things every day and never realise all the option that are available to us. Much like a the way I travel from Morden Station to Oxford street I never thought of getting off at any station in between. So I never get the opportunity to see much of London, and never had an interesting life.

Maybe you should try something that you previously would not think about doing. Maybe dressing sexy is not as bad as you think. I know that dressing in tight clothes is more comfortable then being alone. If it is not true then I am sure you have a happy enough life as it is.

I love cockney accents. Please post a photo.

Hey, CR. The older I get, the more convinced I am that dating has little to do with appearance. I'm tall, thin, tan, pink-wearing and I LOVE make-up. I still thing I'm missing something important in figuring out the basics of the mating game.

Not so there are so people who would disagree with. I'm not that one. Sorry Cockney that you're having a bad time. Don't give up.

Guys like girls to be themselves. Be yourself. Someone will notice.

And then you'll be luckier than that "sexily dressed girl" over there.