What the hell do guys want in a girl(in general)

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yes I know everyone wants something different. For me, its very very hard to attract a guy in person, not that I havent, it just doesnt happen very often. For me online dating works way better cause I can control my impression that Im making on the person way better, just making friends in general is 10x easier for me. Im thinking that there are guys that would want someone like me, I just dont make a good impression on guys in person.

Positive traits:
I have decent looks, I have decent accomplishments, Im intelligent, not overly emotional or clingy(not anymore), not too sensative (not anymore), I make strong attempts to get to know people I know like forming deeper connections not just superficial ones, im very honest and straightfoward, Im not superficial at all Im real, Im not a huge shopper( as in Im not gonna drag a guy into clothing store and stay their for hrs), I dance, Im a very hardworker, I dont give up easily, Im not overly concerned with my apperance(i can imagine itd be kinda annoying to have a gf whos overly concerned with her apperance)

Not so attractive traits
I still have low self confidence(working on it), insecure(working on it), too blunt at times, I can joke around like a guy at times( guessing thats not terribly attractive), i can appear aloof at times, I can say things that are often off, I have a hard time making initial RL impressions, I dont flirt very often, I dont spend time making myself look good(I can dress fashionably when I wanna, I dont wear makeup tho), I lack a lotta the traits that are valued in females(you know nice, sweet, caring, empathetic: that crap), im socially clueless at times(I have my friends acting as translators often), I think too much(which ppl can find annoying at times)

Many guys are generally find me fine as a friend but not as anything more. I was wondering: what do guys find attractive in girls, yes I know the responce a lotta people would say: everyone has different preferences but Im saying "in general".

Meh, I'm sure there are guys out there who'd do you AND keep you around later on.

You're a girl after all.

In answer to your question.

You are probably failing to reciprocate and give non-verbal ques and gestures as to your intentions. Therefore you are not giving a person the "permission" to be able to initiate to the next stage of intimacy.

What I have noticed with some women on the spectrum and what might work for you (and they would be better to articulate this then me) is they throw the "stereotype" social etique book in the bin of traditional conventions of how women go about seeking a relationship. So you are actually the ones that go out and seek people and approach them. You take the initiative and you make direct and assertive moves to indicate to the person you are interested in what your intentions are directly so there is no room for ambiquity.

I certainly can't imagine thats something anyone would be comfortable doing. But if you have the determination to give it a try you might find that will convery yourself in a better way to men because it shows that you have the ability to take decisive actions. Combined with your positive characteristics it will convery you in quite a positive light that you can put yourself out there in some respect.

What you are doing in error is reflecting that your experiances indicate there is something fundamentally wrong with you that you are unattractive. It's not worth pursuing that route, there is no pointing in changing who you are or what you look like in order to suit the desires of other people. Its a path of unhappyness and ill content that will make you a slave to other peoples imaginations and desire.

If someone likes you and connects with you on a wavelength that will have been present from the beginning. All that will happen is you will both become aware of each others existance and then the natural cycle of bonding will take place. Were not very complex creatures to understand men

Well, what I personally want is someone I can talk to freely, someone who's intelligent, someone who can accept certain facts about me, someone who is musical, who likes animals and finally, someone who's positive and fun to be around.

What I don't care for is accomplishments, looks(To a degree. How someone looks can tell you a lot about the person.), disorders, body and how they dress. There's a couple I'm likely forgetting, but that's the gist of it.

What I don't like in a woman, narcissism, the attitude of "I'm a woman, I'm more important in a relationship" attitude, peroxide blonde, piercings and tattoos, and finally, the "sex is necessary" attitude.

But I'm one of those wierd, messed up guys, so don't expect what I like to be similar to most guys.

someone to make them dinner and have their babies.

Not even that far. What guy wants to get stuck with a kid? Just make dinner and be used for sexual gratification.