Ohgodspiders wrote:
So I've been in a relationship for about 3-4 months now, and for the most part things are going well, with the exception of one little caveat. I text with my S.O way too often. She doesn't have unlimited minutes (neither do I) so we text quite a bit, and it's starting to become overwhelming. I don't want to be able to be at her finger tips at any moment. And while I can easily just not respond, I need a more long term solution.
It's an unhealthy amount of talking. There's days where I'll want to just chill and not be contacted, do whatever I want to do, etc etc. But knowing that I've received a message makes me feel bad when I consider not responding. And saying "i'm busy atm" always results in a :/
So, I guess what I'm asking for here is suggestions. Any kind will do.
Thanks!
I was in a relationship where we texted all the time. We also talked and emailed, but the texting was constant. It finally got overwhelming. I would say, "I'm busy and will get back to you later," or "I'm not feeling well and need to rest." The funny thing was that she would wait a couple of hours and then get back to me. When I finally confronted her about the anxiety I was feeling about the texting, she broke it off. Of course, she broke it off via text message. Lovely.
What should you do? Tell her that you want to limit the texting. Find other ways to communicate. Get together with her (do people actually do that anymore?). Agree to
talk at the end of the day. When you tell her you're busy and will get back to her later, follow through.
I hope this helps.