Will my romantic life improve?

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05 Mar 2018, 7:18 pm

As an aspie guy when i go out too social occasions/bars even girls i know well from my school days never throw themselves at me the way they do other guys. I was good looking 4 years ago but sadly had my face a bit messed up doing boxing.

I am 5ft7 inches tall and weigh 154-160 pounds. So i guess a lot of women will not find me tall enough. I am 28 never had a girlfriend or had sex either.


Do you think my current situation will never improve? I am unemployed for mental health reasons.



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05 Mar 2018, 7:27 pm

Atleast your not fat



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05 Mar 2018, 7:28 pm

Confidence, interests, reading Reddit. Read like hell. Develop a philosophy for life. Go and do things. As for "girls" - sack it. You are not fourteen. Would you of 28 like to be called a boy?

Stop thinking you're about the size of a half-pint glass. Develop an interesting life.



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05 Mar 2018, 7:40 pm

Tequila wrote:
Confidence, interests, reading Reddit. Read like hell. Develop a philosophy for life. Go and do things. As for "girls" - sack it. You are not fourteen. Would you of 28 like to be called a boy?

Stop thinking you're about the size of a half-pint glass. Develop an interesting life.


There was one girl who threw herself at me 4 years ago but last time i saw her 1-2 years ago she said she didnt fancy me anymore.

Maybe if i didnt take up boxing she would have still fancied me
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05 Mar 2018, 7:53 pm

I guess probably this idea that girl throw themselves to other guys in a different way they do to you may be only a perspective issue. Of course, certain guys gain a lot of attention, but they are a minority. I guess for majority of people, romantic life isn't so active and interesting. It can be good too, but you must have realistic views on what it will be like.

What happened to your face? Well, at least you have a hobby and it can be a point to attract girls. Sadly, a lot of women have prejudiced again short guys, but you aren't very short and probably there is plenty of girls who are shorter than you so they probably won't have a problem.

Will your romantic life improve? Maybe. I feel while people get older, they start being more realistic about romance, so maybe during your 30s, you will find more women interest in a partner that won't be so busy focusing on that minority of guys who get a lot of attention. But it can be affected by many factors, don't get too obsessed over it, it won't help you.

Plus, take care on not follow misogynistic advices. It will make things a lot worse for you.



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05 Mar 2018, 7:56 pm

I feel maybe I wasn't so clear... but the idea of why you should have more realistic views instead of thinking about girls throwing themselves in other guys is that then if you focus more on yourself, you can be aware of girls who are interested in you.



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05 Mar 2018, 7:57 pm

ltcvnzl wrote:
I guess probably this idea that girl throw themselves to other guys in a different way they do to you may be only a perspective issue. Of course, certain guys gain a lot of attention, but they are a minority. I guess for majority of people, romantic life isn't so active and interesting. It can be good too, but you must have realistic views on what it will be like.

What happened to your face? Well, at least you have a hobby and it can be a point to attract girls. Sadly, a lot of women have prejudiced again short guys, but you aren't very short and probably there is plenty of girls who are shorter than you so they probably won't have a problem.

Will your romantic life improve? Maybe. I feel while people get older, they start being more realistic about romance, so maybe during your 30s, you will find more women interest in a partner that won't be so busy focusing on that minority of guys who get a lot of attention. But it can be affected by many factors, don't get too obsessed over it, it won't help you.

Plus, take care on not follow misogynistic advices. It will make things a lot worse for you.



My nose got badly broken in boxing.

Can i just add that short guys live longer than tall guys. So how is dating a tall man a genetic advantage? :? :scratch:



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05 Mar 2018, 8:00 pm

Jamesy wrote:
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I guess probably this idea that girl throw themselves to other guys in a different way they do to you may be only a perspective issue. Of course, certain guys gain a lot of attention, but they are a minority. I guess for majority of people, romantic life isn't so active and interesting. It can be good too, but you must have realistic views on what it will be like.

What happened to your face? Well, at least you have a hobby and it can be a point to attract girls. Sadly, a lot of women have prejudiced again short guys, but you aren't very short and probably there is plenty of girls who are shorter than you so they probably won't have a problem.

Will your romantic life improve? Maybe. I feel while people get older, they start being more realistic about romance, so maybe during your 30s, you will find more women interest in a partner that won't be so busy focusing on that minority of guys who get a lot of attention. But it can be affected by many factors, don't get too obsessed over it, it won't help you.

Plus, take care on not follow misogynistic advices. It will make things a lot worse for you.



My nose got badly broken in boxing.

Can i just add that short guys live longer than tall guys. So how is dating a tall man a genetic advantage? :? :scratch:


a broken nose can be charming :D don't worry much about it

it doesn't make sense at all to favor tall guys, but sadly stereotypes still exist. but luckily i feel people are becoming less attached to this sort of thing.



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05 Mar 2018, 8:00 pm

ltcvnzl wrote:
I feel maybe I wasn't so clear... but the idea of why you should have more realistic views instead of thinking about girls throwing themselves in other guys is that then if you focus more on yourself, you can be aware of girls who are interested in you.


I more or less said the same thing.

Take note of the quoted post OP.

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My nose got badly broken in boxing.


If Manuel Uribe could get a lass before he snuffed it you can. Develop a personality instead of being cardboard. It'll be a long road but it'll be worth it.



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05 Mar 2018, 8:02 pm

And you have to stop hanging out in those pubs/bars...



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05 Mar 2018, 8:04 pm

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And you have to stop hanging out in those pubs/bars...


If that's aimed at me I think every day about a splendid pint of dark mild or hoppy pale ale and good company.



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05 Mar 2018, 8:12 pm

Why would it be aimed at you?

This guy JamesY always seems to get in trouble in pubs/bars. That's what I was referring to.



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05 Mar 2018, 8:15 pm

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Why would it be aimed at you?

This guy JamesY always seems to get in trouble in pubs/bars. That's what I was referring to.


I got in trouble at some associates house last saturday after meeting at the bar.



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05 Mar 2018, 8:16 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Why would it be aimed at you?

This guy JamesY always seems to get in trouble in pubs/bars. That's what I was referring to.


Ooooooh! Touchy!

I never get into bother but then I don't go on the piss late at night.

Why he couldn't go to a proper pub (or micropub - important addition, that) instead of this bar rubbish.



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05 Mar 2018, 8:17 pm

JamesY is from the UK.



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05 Mar 2018, 8:19 pm

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JamesY is from the UK.


From near London I see.