Some guidance please.

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For those who didn't read my post a couple weeks ago, a brief recap:

I'm a 22 year old male, never had a girlfriend, blah blah blah. There's this girl in my class that I like, I wasn't sure if she liked me and I didn't know what to do.

But today I finally got up the courage to ask her out, AND SHE SAID YES. Oh man, I was so nervous when I asked her. Heart pounding, voice struggling to get out. But any way, on to the point!

She was gone for a week, because she got her tonsils out. She was back this week, and I asked her today. Now, this may not have been the best time to ask her as we have to wait until she feels good enough before we go out. She's not feeling too bad, but she has some trouble eating, etc. But, the opportunity arose today, and I wasn't going to waste it, so I took it!

So, do I wait until next week to see if she wants to do something? Should I say anything to her (through text) this weekend?

Also, I'm currently looking through old posts about first dates, but any advice on what to do would be helpful because I have no f***ing idea.

Last edited by RW665 on 18 Feb 2011, 3:13 am, edited 1 time in total.

Yes, text her. Try to get to know her a little more and allow her to get to know you a little more, and make the plans for the date.

Well, we have been getting to know each other through our time in class. I had also gotten her number before her surgery and texted her throughout the week she was gone. I just don't want to text her too much.

find an ice cream place to goto like a cold stone and take her for ice cream, its great for after getting tonsils out

Congratulations man! I wish I had the courage, or skills to do such a bold move.

Congratulations is right! I agree about the ice cream, but if she's tired, could you bring some to her house? Maybe a small Hagen-Daas, which is more gift-like than others. Watch her for signs of fatigue, maybe don't stay long. This is an excellent opportunity to get "meeting parents" out of the way, with least hassle. Mom will have a bite of ice cream too. Oh, and call/text ahead, "I have something for you, can I bring it over?" When she asks what, say "A surprise. A small surprise. I hope you'll like it."

Keep us posted! I love a love story.

I don't know if I'd be confident enough to go to her house and meet her family before we even had one date. Wouldn't that be weird? I'm really asking, because I have no experience with this, I'm just worrying about every move I make.

^ is adorable.
Do that.

What? The ice cream thing?

Yeah. It's so thoughtful.

See, it's perfect. You can be awkward or goofy or anything - you're only there with a small gift, on a brief visit, because you like her. Her mother will *adore* you for such thoughtfulness. You don't have to be sophisticated or have anything interesting to say - and it's brief, nobody stays long visiting the sick, don't want to tire them out.

Good things to say:
"I brought you this, I hope you like it."
"How do you feel?"

to mom: "Hi, it's good to meet you."

It just seems odd to show up like that, then again lots of things seem odd to me. I guess I'll take it into consideration, plus I'm still building up my confidence again, I think I used it all up when I asked her out, lol.

What about the asperger's, when should I tell her about it? Probably not on the first date, right?

Look, you're a guy. You will *never* understand women. That's my experience. However, you can learn what women think is absolutely adorable and do it. Men and women don't make sense to each other. We just have to learn as we go. Would I tell you to bring ice cream to a sick guy? Of course not! You'd bring him a beer. That's why you can't use your instincts, because you're a guy. Showing up in time for the hockey game with beer and Doritos is not good. Calling ahead and showing up with a small classy casual appropriate expensive ice cream is perfect for your girl. Really, really, really!

You discourage me - you say you'll consider it. For heaven's sake, don't consider it till she's all better - this is a golden opportunity requiring minimum effort on your part. Go for it!

LOL

to the OP: first of all, congrats!

As a NT female, I think she would really enjoy the ice cream thing. Claradoon's first post = perfection. Definitely get Hagen-Dazs if you can find it. If not, get something classy.

Give it to her, ask her how she's feeling, talk for a bit, and when the conversation dies, just say something like "I should probably let you get some rest. Take care. See you in class." give her a hug if it doesn't feel too weird, and leave. The hug is preferable

From your previous thread and this one, I think she likes you, so this plan should work perfectly. There's always the off chance that she won't want you to go to her place, but even if that's the case, no harm done, you can take her out to an ice cream parlor. And yeah, don't wait too long. It's a great opportunity, but it won't last forever.

Good luck!!

You lucky b*******! Good luck with everything!

Don't just 'show up' call ahead first.
Then it's a flawless plan.