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Nerdykid
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24 Jan 2011, 8:41 am

Long story short, I had a freak out at my GF. I Started screaming and punching the floor until I broke my hand. I have been having alot of trouble controlling my anxiety. What do you guys control having these attacks?? I don't know what happen Ijust got confused and then lost my temper and blacked out. I regret it very much as I scared my GF greatly. She said my disability was controlling our relationship. Please help.



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24 Jan 2011, 8:51 am

I do this sometimes - it doesn't scare my boyfriend, it just worries him a lot.

I just talk it through with him, so he understands i'm not doing it to hurt him and sometimes I can't control it.

Also, a good therapist to help, is good for me. Although I know, that doesn't work for everyone.
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24 Jan 2011, 1:17 pm

My last boyfriend would have major meltdowns..I am sorry that you broke your hand...

I understood what was going on because I have meltdowns too...i have screamed..and I have him myself....but I am lucky not to have been too terribly destructive...

Funny...when I was around him...I was a bit more "functional" so I had to be the "mature" one...

I seldom had meltdowns in front of him....but I did my best to take care of him when he had his...which was quite often.



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24 Jan 2011, 5:22 pm

thank you for the support.

My GF has social p[hobia due too abuse do it was really bad for her



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24 Jan 2011, 7:35 pm

Get a punching bag or something -- I also broke my hand (but not during a freakout, during a tantrum) -- it sucks, you'll be months in healing, and if you do it again, you can have complications that could require pins.

Question -- are you doing anything about your stress levels?

1. Do you exercise, and if so, how many times a week? Any cardio?
2. Are you doing any weight-lifting? (also an important part of fitness)
3. Are you getting enough sleep?
4. Are you getting enough quality food to eat, and keeping your blood sugar up during the day?



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24 Jan 2011, 8:01 pm

I walk at work all day but other then that I am very clumsy so it is hard for me to work out

I probably dont sleep enuogh

I do eat healthy though. little junk food and I only Drink juice. I probably dont eat enough though



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24 Jan 2011, 8:07 pm

I don't give a s**t about my girlfriend. Fact of the matter is all people will let you down and the more you care about them the more they hurt you. The more they hurt you the more you freak out. Life just goes so much smoother when you don't care about anything you can't control.


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25 Jan 2011, 11:13 am

Nerdykid wrote:
I walk at work all day but other then that I am very clumsy so it is hard for me to work out

I probably dont sleep enuogh

I do eat healthy though. little junk food and I only Drink juice. I probably dont eat enough though


When I don't get enough exercise, my aggression level shoots up. You may need to get some real exercise going and get that stress out.

Also, if you don't maintain your blood sugar during the day, or if you overdo it on carbs or sweets, you could end up with see-sawing blood sugar and end up in a very bad mood. I would say at least half of my tantrums in life were done on an empty stomach.



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25 Jan 2011, 1:38 pm

Surprising I didn't think of it before but I was on an empty stomach when this happened. I am really regretting what happen and my hand is now making my depression worse



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30 Jan 2011, 5:59 pm

Nerdykid wrote:
I walk at work all day but other then that I am very clumsy so it is hard for me to work out

I probably dont sleep enuogh

I do eat healthy though. little junk food and I only Drink juice. I probably dont eat enough though


That sh!t's full of sugar. :!:


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30 Jan 2011, 6:30 pm

I'm glad you took him out of his cage


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30 Jan 2011, 6:58 pm

Laz wrote:
I'm glad you took him out of his cage


Was that to me?

I don't get it. :?


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30 Jan 2011, 7:14 pm

Pistonhead wrote:
I don't give a sh** about my girlfriend.


Ouch.



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24 Feb 2011, 12:58 am

Correction when I said "I have him myself" (which makes no sense)..I meant..I have "hit" myself..(I have been going back thru my previous posts just for something to do)



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24 Feb 2011, 1:37 am

I had a meltdown that was so bad when I worked in a resteraunt one of the waitresses started to cry because of how bad I scared her and she was only watching it. The two idiots who caused it stood there with a deer caught in the headlights look. The boss fired them but I still punched a metal wall so much it left multiple dents, left behind blood, and my hand started to swell up like I broke it. I punched out then went home my boss followed me home trying to get me to stop so he could take me to the emegency room to get my hand x-rayed.

When I got back the next day I put my two-week notice in but the boss told me he wanted me to stay because I did the dishes, salad prep, kept their charcoal ovens going, and loaded spits of chickens into the oven I did the work of three people. But I could not face my fellow employees again because I knew I scared so many of them. They were uncomfortable around me even though a lot of them knew me for nine years and now they were afraid of me like I was a mental patient. :oops:

Odds are your girlfriend will never see you in the same light again, she might be afraid of you a little bit. She probably has told what she saw you do to her friends who are all telling her to get away from you before you hurt her. NTs are not use to seeing meltdowns it scares the hell out of them. People who knew me for 9 years were now afraid of me after one meltdown. I was no longer Todesking but that crazy guy who worked in the morning.


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24 Feb 2011, 11:19 am

Nerdykid wrote:
Long story short, I had a freak out at my GF. I Started screaming and punching the floor until I broke my hand. I have been having alot of trouble controlling my anxiety. What do you guys control having these attacks?? I don't know what happen Ijust got confused and then lost my temper and blacked out. I regret it very much as I scared my GF greatly. She said my disability was controlling our relationship. Please help.


What set you off, or are you not sure. For me, really trying to understand what sets me off helps. I also try to understand the underlying anger. I ask, "How is this situation similar to other situations that have set me off in the past?" Talking it through can also help.