Dating "Oopsies"

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Share your Aspie-related dating (or poor attempts and consequent lack thereof) "oopsies." Make it funny if you can; how you lost your one true love is just depressing and should go to the haven with the puppy pics.

More than once I have failed to realize I was, in fact, dating someone. The first guy this happened with quit being my "friend" when I went on a date with another guy and told him about how big of a jerk the other guy was. [Facepalm]
He would come by my dorm room to hang out. We were both in the same club and I didn't have a car so he always took me to club events and parties with his roomie. He'd even call to remind me of meets on campus in case I forgot. We were all in the same club and lived in the same dorm, so why not right? We went shopping a couple times after he said he loved picking out clothes, and I wondered if he maybe was gay since he never talked about liking any girls. Sometimes I'd go up to their place and watch movies or we'd go with a couple friends. The dorm just had twin beds for furniture, so he'd offer to fit me on the bed with him so I'd be more comfy. I was ok with a pillow and don't like to think about how often guys change sheets. Once he ordered delivery for a bunch of us, and paid for mine instead of splitting the bill; i figured nice clothes and car, he must be too loaded to even bother.

Most recently, this guy from a different floor at work starting getting off his bike and walking home with me. I thought you know why not talk to someone on the way home. He lived towards that direction but it was definitely not the most direct route, and blazing hot outside. He would come by sometimes and ask me if I wanted to go to lunch on my break and I would think sure that's what coworkers do on break to kill time. But it was always hard to coordinate so he started texting/ calling me to set it up. Once I paid his meal when he had a prob with his card, and after that we went to coffee on a Sat and he paid mine. You know, just paying me back, I thought. Paid for lunch the next time, but still you know coffee was cheap. In my defense the guy never made a move and always said he needed to go back home to study and play his guitar. Do I want to learn guitar? Nope, not really [duh, I know]. He offered to come by when I was sick 'cause that's what friends do, but never wanted to go to a club or anywhere fun. Anyway he gets kicked out of his place and moves to the same complex, said he had friends there. So we ran into each other and decided to meet by the pool and go to lunch one weekend. He sees me talking to one of my guy friends (really, he's like a model, way outta my and 99% of the population's league) at the pool, acts weird about it, and quits being my "friend."
My bro asks what happened to my bf, and I was like we were just friends and don't hang out anymore. Bro was like, no, you were dating. [Facepalm]

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I know I've had a lot of "oopsie" incidents but I can't think of many 'cause I'm quite tired. But I can relate with you, OP...I've been with a couple people for quite a while before realizing we were an item.

They would just always stand there looking at me so long before leaving lol. I'm so used to being awkward that instead of taking the hint I'd just be like um, ok, goodnight, thanks, bye.....um yeah, see you tomorrow and finally go in.

It is a really good thing I am a girl because there's no way I'd ever make the first move with a "friend"/ friend. It's just too confusing what the situation is before that unless the word "date" is specifically and clearly used, which guys rarely actually do. Want to go to coffee, dinner, lunch, movies, not gonna cut it.

Yeah, done that. Sometimes I even liked the guy, but thought that they wanted to just be friends...

My high school did not have a prom. We had a banquet instead. I skipped it because I was too shy to ask anybody to go with me and because the idea of dressing up made me uncomfortable. After the banquet, a girl told me that she would have gone with me. My reply was "oh."

In retrospect, "oh" was the worst reply that I could possibly have made. Pretty much any other response would probably have led to something.

Lol classic! I'll say things like that and five minutes later hit myself.

Ah prom---Sr. year I didn't go. Somebody asked me if I wanted to go with some guy in the grade below. This seemed like an odd topic of conversation and I basically said why would I, I don't know him. She of course was reporting back to the guy in question. Whoops.

I went Jr year because a friend said you ARE going with this guy (her friend), don't argue with me. It thought she was just trying to make sure her friends went. He called me the next day (Sat) awkward and stumbly, asking me if I was ok. I was like yeah, you took me home. Is that all you wanted?
(I never had even a date in HS besides this one time and felt invisible mostly. I was floored when a couple guys told me years later they had a crush on me but I always'"ignored" them. Completely mind warped my whole idea of high school. )

Another guy had asked me repeatedly, but I thought he was making fun of me since he was really popular and used to when we were younger. I realized he wasn't when his friend got really mad at me, and he ended up just going with his friend's sister. Turned out he was also moving

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A girl asked me when I was going to take her out. I thought that she was teasing, so I just laughed. She insisted that she was serious. I just laughed again.

She was actually quite nice and not the sort to tease like that. She was probably serious. I just couldn't accept the concept. I probably would have had a decent social life in high school if I had a bit of a clue.