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14 Jul 2006, 1:12 pm

Sorry I'm not perfect like everyone else here



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14 Jul 2006, 1:52 pm

Black swans.

"All swans are white" holds, swan after swan after swan, but then one day there's a black swan and it all falls apart.

"love is an illusion" may fit most cases too, or be made to. But it only takes a single instance to hole the proposition. No, I've not known it myself but I've know a few cases that I'd take to be the real thing, not convenience, lust, mutual dependence...

I reckon it can exist, but what is passed off for it is very often a poor substitute.



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14 Jul 2006, 2:05 pm

Everything is an illusion.....

Even this post.

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14 Jul 2006, 2:12 pm

Thank you all, but at 45 years old. I have really given up hope. My heart can't take another betrayal. I admit I'm no prize myself. But I would never hurt someone intentionally. I know there is no one (woman-I'm straight) for me. So I don't even try anymore.



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14 Jul 2006, 2:33 pm

The way I look at my situation is this: I've never had a girlfriend and thought
I would be okay with that then a few years ago I meet a girl that was likely
my soulmate but I was too scared to ask her out. It is painfull to even think about
her. I called her like a year later but she had moved and I think forgot who I was.
I just got off the phone quick. But my point is I thought I did not care anymore.
I thought yeah it would be nice to have a girlfriend for sex. But thats not how
I saw her. I would have been happy just to talk to her. Which all means I'm 36
now but if in the next 40 years I remain alone I can keep going knowing that
oneday if only for a short amount of time I find a girl like that again and I do ask
her out.



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14 Jul 2006, 4:16 pm

Emettman wrote:
Black swans.

"All swans are white" holds, swan after swan after swan, but then one day there's a black swan and it all falls apart.

"love is an illusion" may fit most cases too, or be made to. But it only takes a single instance to hole the proposition. No, I've not known it myself but I've know a few cases that I'd take to be the real thing, not convenience, lust, mutual dependence...

I reckon it can exist, but what is passed off for it is very often a poor substitute.


Good post.



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14 Jul 2006, 4:22 pm

One thing I've noticed about aspie guys is that they talk about "soulmates" and "the one" a lot.

I personally think soulmates are a myth, and that there are actually a healthy number of people out there we could successfully be with. I mean, there are six and a half billion of us, right?

I don't find the idea of being brought together by destiny romantic. That means it was gonna happen anyway, right? How special is that? You had no choice.

To me, what's romantic is people who know they could successfully be with others, and nevertheless deliberately choose and promise to forgo those other opportunities to be with each other.



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15 Jul 2006, 9:26 pm

juliekitty wrote:
One thing I've noticed about aspie guys is that they talk about "soulmates" and "the one" a lot.
That's funny, that's what I've noticed about NT women, they're looking for "my soulmate," "the one, "and Mr. Right."


:jester:"You know what our problem is, we're both looking for a custom fit in a off the rack world."