What is the worst way you have been dumped?

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Sorry everyone, I got a little rant here .

Ok, There was this guy on my IM contact list. We first met through here on WP (he replied to my ad in the eligible odd-bods list). Everything was going well for the first few weeks but I kinda knew he lost interest after that.
As of about 30mins ago this is a snippet of our last conversation on IM:

Him: "(IM's picture of girl who is prettier than me)"

Him: "(IM's second picture of girl who is prettier than me)"

Me: "Who is that?"

Him: "The girl I'm probably going to start dating"

Me: "Good for you I guess" ( I didnt know what else to say)

Less than 2 days ago he IM'ed me a link to a dating website .

Is this an appropriate way for him to say he's not interested?.

He sent me photos of this other girl, which as the rejected party, I dont want to see.
Why did he reply to my ad anyway?. He knew I lived across the ocean in Australia.
I'm not sad but I am a little pissed . I deleted him as a contact on IM and blocked him. Maybe that was a hot-headed thing to do but I dont think I want to be his friend either.
Have I done the right thing? I know people have been dumped in much worse ways



Well, What is the worst way that you guys and girls have been dumped?

He's either an aspie who doesn't know any better or an as*hole who should. You're better off. I was fired from my last job by e-mail. How rude! I heard about 6 weeks later she was fired herself, but probably not by e-mail.

I have yet to get to the phase of being in the position where I can be dumped. I guess thats the worst for me. I hope you feel better!

He sounds like a total loser, too gutless to actually say he isn't interested. Whats this persons user name?

I'm sorry that you feel bad, being ditched hurts your heart, but you will get over it in time.

Oh I cant tell you his username in public. I'll give some cryptic clues for his identity later. He's aspie. I thought he was here on WP cos he was sick of NT girls.

I've already got a replacement on my IM list.
NEVER AGAIN WILL I ENDURE MINDLESS LOVEY DOVEY SWEET TALK TILL 4AM IN THE MORNING.

That's sounds like that guy is a jerk to you. Good luck finding another one.

So you are in Australia and he is in somewhere like USA (i.e. on the other side of the world)? A very looong way away? If so, it would probably have been better if you aimed to be friends (or close friends) than trying to have a relationship over a distance as far as Australia and other side of the world. A relationship over such a distance is difficult.

Perhaps he vaguely realized this but did not have the maturity necessary to explicitly say it to you. Perhaps his showing you a photo of a girl he wants to date was his immature way of saying, "I cannot handle the thought of having a relationship with you when I am in USA and you all the way over in Australia in a different hemisphere of the world, but I would still like to be friends with you."

Also, is it possible that he thought you were friends and NOT dating? Perhaps you are the only one who thought you were having a relationship. Perhaps if he read your message here he would think, "Dumped? Huh? How could I have dumped her when I was not even dating her in the first place?"


I suspect that neither of you have done the right thing.

That does seem crazy if he sent you pictures of other girls. My guess is he
felt rejected by you and wanted to strike back. Aspie are so hyper-sensitive
to things you may have did nothing wrong. Myself I think aspie on aspie
relationships are less likely to work than aspie on NT relationship. I had
a male NT friend at college that seemed to all ways beable to say the right
things to me. He was depressed before he meet me and told me "he thinks
god sent me to make him happy" he was into strange eastern religions. I
made him laugh so much he became happy. My point is do not give up on
NT's.

GF:"Why don't you wannah f*** me?"

Me:Well,um...you see...I don't think I'm ready for that... -deep blush-

GF:Forget you,b***h!We are so through!


-SpaceCase

That guy sounds like he's rubbing in who he wants on a very shallow note. He sounds like a typical prick guy looking for some poon to bang. Mind the bluntness, but its the truth. Theres lots of as*holes out there like him.

I really fancied the pants of a girl in college and even told my female mate that my perfect new year would be to date this girl so it did happen a few days later the mate said to the girl that i fancied here and would i go out with her and here reply was yes well as you would guess i was over the moon but that was only the start of the trouble.

as the days went by i was told by a few of her classmates that she was seeing 10 yes 10 other people as well as myself so i confronted her about it and she denied it so a few more days went by and still people were telling me she was cheating on me with 10 other guys so i decided enough was enough and dumped here she started to cry and me being me i felt so sorry for her so we patched things up.

A few days later i got a phone call from one of the guys she was dating at the same time telling me he was going to stab me etc etc and i was scared out of my wits anyway a few more days went by and me and my parents went up the college to see a my tutor about it only to be told her father and 6 brothers were all in prison for attempted murder etc and lets just say that made me even more terrified.

so another week went by and i witnessed it for myself she was sat on a wall kissing one of her many boyfriends and i kept well out of the way well a few hours later she was flirting with me thinking that i never saw her and it was at that point i turned around and told her enough was enough and it was over for good and that i knew about the various other guys and i really didnt need that trouble in my life.

so a few months went by and once again she started to ask me out etc i kept saying no and to this day have still said no and come on does she really think i have mug written on my face somewhere? i've never felt such a twit in my life falling for a girl who caused me nothing but problems.

anyways thats my story about my last girlfriend allmost 2 and a half years ago and please excuse spelling etc as i am a little drunk at the time of typing this out

Sounds like a classy fellow. Your much better off without him.

What a fruit. I would never do that to a girl.

Then again, I wouldn't be interested in a girl from Australia, simply because of the distance. I stick to within a 60-km radius generally.

Personally, for me, I will probably stick to NT girls, unless I happen to find a great Aspie girl. I've never been interested in an Aspie girl, mainly because I've only ever met two of them.

Never been dumped. But I've never had a girlfriend. I'm going to be 20 this year.

Aspies and NTs can be a very good match depending on the people involved. I know at least one NT girl who dated a guy who she later (after dumping him) realised must have had Aspergers, but she got sick of waiting for him to make a move and moved on (she is getting older, biological clock ticking etc), but she has since dated a bunch of NT guys who were no better and has confessed she actually kind of liked the quirkiness of the Aspie guy and was thinking of giving it another shot now she realises what his problem was.

I also find the one thing in common I am told by all the NT girls I have dated is that I am so different from every other guy they know, so it's not all bad. In fact the only girl I have dated who may have had AS (or else was just really, really shy) was probably the worst of the lot because she was really difficult to talk to. I ended up having to do most of the talking which is not really my thing usually, so it was stressful for me trying to think up stuff to say the whole time.

The best dates are usually those talkative NT women who wont shut up, then you can sort of relax and nod every once in a while, you're happy because you don't need to talk much, she's happy because she's got someone who listens to her, so those relationships can work very well, though you do need some common ground, usually a shared interest or something, for it to work successfully. I know two successful marriages exactly like that, so there is some hope.

Lol, exactly. That and when a girl is real outgoing it shows you she isn't harboring a lot of suspicion, judgement, or whatever. That unassuming characteristic means a heck of a lot as well.