Long Distance Relationships

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In the last couple of months I wanted to try the ring approach and pretend I was married when I was on my vacation in Turkey. While I was in there I thought that it was not appropriate to use that approach, so I didn’t. I meet someone while I was in Turkey. After she booked her vacation, she broke up with her boyfriend, she went with her cousin instead. I met her on a tour boat. She is 45 with 7 children from 6 to 19(or something I cannot remember). Her, her cousin and me spent the evening in bars having a drink and spend the most of the holiday together. They appreciated my company, I was a little surprised especially. But I realised that one of them especially found conversation that isn’t Smalltalk very interesting. We will talked about religion, politics and society and with my on personal logical spin on it. Even though she was not rich, upper/middle class or even an aspie, she is an intellectual. And she appreciated me allot.

When we got back home we still kept in contact, she wrote to me lots, I am very flattered by it. By her letter she had lots of problem concerning her ex boyfriend, she was giving her lots of trouble, he was continually ringing her up and bugging her, he slashing the tyres of her friends car because he though he was her new boyfriend.

Also in her letters she said that she would like to visit me, she lives up north about 5 hours away. She eventually did come to see me and I took her sightseeing I had a wonderful day we at night we did get close. She shows an interest in starting a relationship and so I am I. I live down here and she lives up north how could it work ,we live 5 hours apart.

I read an article the other day in the newspaper about how long distance relationships are often the most successful, because you dont see the other person as much you appreciate them more and make more effort when you do.

I would try to date people locally as much as possible, but if I meet somebody online who I feel would be perfect for me and she lived a long way away, I am willing to go as far as I can to be with her.

Tim

I'm not able to travel very far, and not too many single women who I'm interested in live near me.

My boyfriend and I are long-distant. Well, it started off being local (just down the hall in the same dorm) and then he had to transfer closer to home for specific reasons and then i changed my major and transferred out-of-state. Usually with our relationship now, we'll chat online almost every day, or whenever possible. It's sometimes hard, but at least we're keeping it going until we can see each other the next time around.

I don't think long distance relationships work.

I just got out of one last week.
We saw each other 1 time per week or every other week usually.
Cost me alot of money and i rarely got to see her.
She kinda went nuts over missing me.

Now i have a girlfriend in the same town only like 1 kilometre away.
I see her daily and like that alot better.

So my advice would be to try and find someone closer.

I have done the long-distance relationships thing a few times. It is really crappy. I am never doing it again. I think it is better to just be friends or close friends. You can also leave open the possibility for a relationship sometime in the future if you decide to move closer to each other. But while you are far away, having a friendship or close friendship is more realistic, sensible, practical.