Some advice for dating...

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If you're trying to attract an NT female, then I might suggest askmen.com as a reference source to use with wrongplanet. It gives you some very good insight into what NT females are looking for in NT males. The best part of all is that I think guys with AS have a lot of the traits that attract women (at least to get them in bed). Basically being somewhat (not rudely) cold, detached and flipent is a turn on for a lot of women because they think your playing hard to get. The part that AS guys may not have is the confidence or other intuition necessary to seal the deal. There are also wardrobe, hair and other appearance advice. It might be worth a try if your not having any luck. The best advice I got from the site was to always be willing to walk away, never ask the girl for a second date (make her ask you) and date more than one person at once (chances are she is too).

For example, I used to normally call a girl a few days later and thank her for the date and ask her out again (usually didn't get a second date). Now I call her to thank her for a good time but absolutely do not ask her out again. I let it go. Interestingly, almost every girl has called me back between 1 and two weeks later and ask me out again. However, because I am trying to line up another front date or already have one, I don't really hang around waiting for the phone call from the girl.

I don't recommend doing this if you get intimate but as long as your on the 1st or second date, I think it's harmless. Let me know what you think.

I guess a little bit aloof is a whole lot better than, as a first date, inviting the girl on a 3 month trip to look for WWII aeroplane wrecks in some remote bit of jungle. Much as I like the idea, it's too much for a first date.

Spieder,
What happened to going with whatever feels right for the moment? Tsk, tsk, on playing the games...But then I know that rulebook is going right out the window when you find someone you want to see more that once.

And as for:

"Basically being somewhat (not rudely) cold, detached and flipent is a turn on for a lot of women because they think your playing hard to get. "

I hope that is not someone you want a lasting relationship with....just someone for the night's entertainment.

Be careful, you just may take a fall yourself. And good luck out there!

SheDevil

I´m not so sure. What if the girl thinks that you don´t like her, and doesn´t think that you´ll go out with her again, so she doesn´t ask. You´ll miss out by playing some "game". Anyone who only wants to be with me because I act indifferent is not exactly someone who I think I would like to be with, because it seems like that is more of a game than true feelings. And, not all of us are so lucky to date more than one person, in fact, its hard for some of us to even get one date!

Unless you are only looking for a one night relationship I would not take advice from that site. I was looking on that site for advice on my AS guy before I found out he was AS. If I applied what they were saying to him, he would have been just another user. Is that what you want to be seen as? It is not a good place to go, unless you want to become a player. If you want a real relationship with a real person do what feels right, be yourself.
I am a NT female and if you used the advice from that site on me I would run fast in the opposite direction of you.

Date more than one person at the same time?
1)*mumbles something about honor*
2)Doesn't that have a lot of chance to blow up in you face?

It sounds like all one-night relationships. Not for me.

You can date people without having sex with them, you know.

I felt the same way you guys do but I have to tell you it works. Another point I left out is that the more women you date the better you get at dating and the less intimidating they appear. Take it for whatever it's worth.