TheHaywire wrote:
Instead the exact opposite happened. As soon as we were married he talked me into giving up my art, music, startup companies, the whole nine yards. He told me I would be able to work on these things later but that first we needed to achieve stability.
Do I just run?
yes, yes you do as far as you can until you find the support you need. This should have been the first and final red flag for you that this relationship wasn't going to work. Stability is achieved through following dreams and hopes, by him telling you that you can "work on these things later" he was basically telling you that what you cared about didn't matter much to him. But alas hindsight is 20/20 so they say
As for what you can do, first get far enough away that his sphere of influence can't effect you. You seem to have the willpower and want to leave but keep relating back to the fact that he will or is stopping you. Put whatever physical and mental distance you need to no longer allow that to happen, only then will you truly be able to move forward in what you need to do. I unfortunately have no personal experience in the area, but I have meet a gent in the same type of situation your in now. From everything we have talked about it's a long hard path trough with financial and emotion burden. Wish I could help more =(