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astaut
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21 Mar 2011, 12:06 am

I've just started dating someone and we like each other very much, but we are so very different as for how our minds work. I'm (as you would guess) an aspie, very logical and rational, and she's an NT. She wants to learn more about AS but I'm having trouble finding info/videos/whatever online about Aspergers and relationships that is geared toward NT partners. I know there are books out there, but I think they are written for a married/LTR audience. Plus I hate to ask her to read whole books about it since we've only started dating.

If you've found any good links that you would show a partner to help them better understand AS, post them here. Or, feel free to share stories, advice, or whatever else :)


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21 Mar 2011, 10:26 am

The Wikipedia article on AS isn't too bad.

wikipedia/aspergers


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21 Mar 2011, 10:27 am

I found things got a lot easier when we just accepted each others quirks and habits without trying to understand them too much.



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21 Mar 2011, 10:54 am

astaut wrote:
I've just started dating someone and we like each other very much, but we are so very different as for how our minds work. I'm (as you would guess) an aspie, very logical and rational, and she's an NT. She wants to learn more about AS but I'm having trouble finding info/videos/whatever online about Aspergers and relationships that is geared toward NT partners. I know there are books out there, but I think they are written for a married/LTR audience. Plus I hate to ask her to read whole books about it since we've only started dating.

If you've found any good links that you would show a partner to help them better understand AS, post them here. Or, feel free to share stories, advice, or whatever else :)


NTgrl made a good list of books "members only" forum, "understanding Aspie boyfriend" or something like that...



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21 Mar 2011, 11:19 pm

Mike_the_EE wrote:
The Wikipedia article on AS isn't too bad.

wikipedia/aspergers


true, at least for a wikipedia article


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