Do things change with age?

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I heard that as women get older, they grow out of the bad boys and realize that they need more reliable guys instead. I don't know how true that is, but it got me thinking about something.
I wonder if that applies to Aspies as well. Are more mature women, more experienced with relationships and grown out of chasing whatever superficial image society tells them to, are more likely to be interested in Aspie men.
Yoour thoughts?

In my experience life has just gotten worse since 18... socially it's just been on a steady decline after HS graduation. I may not have been mr. popular in high school, but at least i had significant social contact with a lot of folks...

It seems like a generalization that women only like "bad boy" types when they're younger. I've always, in people of either gender, valued sensitivity, kindness, and genuineness above all other traits. Of course I'm an Aspie female so I'm not sure if you were talking about us or about NT women. Either way, I'd say there's a lot more variation in the dating preferences of women than you seem to imagine.

I think for NTs and for aspies alike there are lots of things that change as we age. I'm now 37, and thinking back to my teens and 20s, here's what I think has changed for me:

*I care less about what other people think -- this has made me more comfortable being 'myself' around other people, not worrying about covering up my natural self with makeup uncomfortable clothes or insincere/unnatural behavior

*I don't care if someone is 'hot' or not, if they're a jerk or a manipulator, I don't want anything to do with them

*I've seen enough unhappiness in my own life and the lives of others to know that physical appearance is in no way equal to or related to sincerity, honesty, true friendship and everything else that really matters.

I'm fortunate enough that after all of the tough lessons I've had to learn, I find myself with a beautiful, loving man who has been my most loyal friend and devoted spouse for almost 8 years now. I never imagined I'd find myself in this position, but here I am

I never had a bad boy thing. I agree with purchase. I also don't really know women who have had a thing for bad boys either. The women I know who are with jerks just seem to have self esteem problems - so the issue is much deeper than attraction to a type. I've also never really known any stereotypical bad boys. They're just guys, each with his own issues.

Sort of, I have almost the same probelms except I am older and fatter so I guess that counts as change.

I hope so. I am now 28, and I am hoping the women my age (that aren't already taken) will have got past the bad boy thing and give me, an Aspie, a chance I have not had any luck at all with women yet. I hope they will see Aspie traits such as loyalty, reliability, etc as loveable qualities.

F**k nice, just be awesome!

Im 22 now and I could care less what people think of me I do my own thing an I dont follow trends I do the things I like not what everyone else is doing I dont give into peer preasure as much as I used to its no longer a issue since im older and more mature

Probably on average they do grow out of that type of guy. but it this does not translate into things being much easier. As the percentage of woman who like nice guys have all settled down, leaving those woman who like bad boys. It also might increase the chance of them cheating if one comes by. There is also an increasing preference for bad boys due to natural selection, but that may only effect the younger woman.

Bad boys are usually stupid. Who is attracted to stupid?