Life as a childless man

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I have always wanted to know what life would be like if the men in the office had no children. Not ones that chooses not to or a career man but an average man. One who is neither slim nor fat but perhaps a tad portly. What would they do when they go home. Do stuff like painting or cooking or do they all go salsa classes. There was a temp who worked in my office who was childless and as far as I know single. One day he wasn't there. He left some of his personal stuff in her desk and there wasn't special goodbye for him. No one had his number so there wasn't any way to know what has happened.

Someone at work wanted me to post this on their behalf. So I thought I would give it a go.

My roommate plays video games or watches a movie when he gets home and my friend usually makes dinner, fiddles with his computer and does some type of yard or house work. Honestly I don't think the after work lives of men without children usually all that much from men with children. I think you would see more variation on the weekends.

I am a single, working, childless man, and my evenings are quite lonely indeed.

Would it bother you that the person who asked the question was a woman who have children.

People who don't want to have (or cannot have) children are often persecuted in our society.

Just because we do not continue the human race through reproduction does not make us bad (or inferior) people.

I can remember my Physic professor used to cross-stitch in his free time. The assumption most people make for the average older guy is that there is something wrong with him if he isn't out there living the bachelor's lifestyle. I expect I will end up falling into this pit.

Unmarried and childless ... and intend to stay that way. Firsthand experience taught me that I was not the "marrying kind"; didn't need to try it to know that I'm not dad material. I normally work pretty late -- 8:00 to 9:00. I sometimes go out after work (2 or 3 nights a week), usually alone and usually to catch some music. If I don't, then it's often straight to bed to catch up on sleep. I don't have much to do in my apartment, so there's not much drawing me there in the evenings. I tend to go out of town (also usually alone) on weekends.

Ultimately, I'm a wanderer. And wives and kids need and deserve more stability.

True. At lunch the other day with my coworkers, two women who have children, started saying that people who don't have them are selfish, ego-centric, generally unhappy people (there were some nasty names said , too). The only other people there were me and a guy about my age who doesn't have children either (I don't). I was appalled and shocked by the sheer ignorance. Childless isn't always a choice and even if it is it doesn't make a person bad.

People who don't have kids go home and do all the stuff that parents used to do before their kids were born. i imagine a young single guy might go out to get drinks with his friends or play games or hang out at the gym. There's a whole world that doesn't involve children. I don't understand how his childlessness plays into the mystery of his disappearance.

How is it selfish to not have children?

I mean, in an over populated world? I don't get it. The "selfish" person might spend a lot of time doing volunteer work.

It's probably some kind of twisted 'spin' in order to make themselves feel superior, because they imagine childless people's lives to be filled with free time, partying, wild/easy sex, or whatever else they wish they could do but can't because they have kids. Whether or not any of that is actually true for any given childless people's lives is probably not too important to them. And/or, maybe they regret having kids when they did, and feel they missed out on some part of life.

My mother married in her late 30's, and had a friend who married very young. Her friend used to complain that since she got married early, she missed out on all the fun my mother had. My mother would have to remind her that she was either working 2 jobs, or 1 job and going to college (in a non-native country & and was also learning English) during that time, and never went out partying, or getting drunk and so forth.

People are weird. What they imagine often seems to have little connection to reality -- and other people aren't who they are, but are rather projection screens for their imaginings. :S

I would have children if I made pretty good money and was able to afford a house in a good school district. Since I am poor children are out my price range. My dad was able to get us a lot great things when I was growing up. I might not have had popularity or friends in school but at least when I went home I had nice things to play with. It made life bareable for me. I could only imagine how horrible life would have been if my father was a bad provider. Being tormented all day then going home to nothng.

I once knew an etymologist who quilted in his spare time.

Over-population is an oft-ignored dilemma.

Actually, all I ever wanted was hearth and home, wife and child. I got the first 2 but have no luck with the third, which is generally a prerequisite for the forth. My evenings are usually spend doing small chores (shopping and laundry). I try to spend as much of the weekend outside as possible; working in the yard or garden. When I do have time to relax, it is usually with a beer and a video game.

I fully support VHEMT.

Well being a single, childless adult... I can say I enjoy not having any children, the massive responsibility put on someone who has to see to the well being of another human being for 18+ years is a bit much for me. I am not beholden to any job, I can come and go as I please, and generally spend my time working on computer or video game stuff.