As an Aspie female, I like to be approached if I am in a place where this is expected, like a club or a coffee house or something. I do not like being approached under casual but annoying circumstances, such as while shopping, or at the library (when I am task oriented and not in social mode) I find this extremely annoying, even when the guy looks interesting or good looking. Or at a laundromat, or while waiting for a bus. It just tangles things up.
Having said that, all I can say as to the manner of the approach, is to show respect. I have had guys literally approach me while noisily licking their chops, as if I were something to dine on, and not a human being. Or they would pay compliments to parts of my anatomy, which really infuriated me. There were even a few who would back me up to a wall and place their arms on either side of me while staring into my eyes. This terrified me!
I once had a guy who was in the same activist group with me, approach me with a couple books which he thought I might like. I was not attracted to him but looking back, I think that was a sweet approach. He was appealing to my mind, and not my body. So, show interest in the whole person, and not just their body. Find out something they are interested in, learn about it, and then try to discuss it with them.
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