A desire for Motherhood...

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....or Fatherhood in my case.


This thread is only for those who can't get a partner.

Have you ever worried that the lack of love life would forbid you to experience parenthood in your whole lifetime?


I had that thought when I was taking care of my very little cousine for a little time.

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I want to be able to start my own family. One that I can hold close to my heart, unlike my parents...

Maybe I should have titled this thread as "group sex" or something like that.

Nah... but the title is misleading. Being that I am a mother I came in here but discovered that the thread was not something I could really participate in... not in a helpful way anyhow. All I can comment on is this. That said, I nod to you and leave the room.

There are times when I hope to find the right kind of woman for me and raise a good family, in part because I want to prove to myself that I can raise a better family than the one I was raised in.

Thing is, both my parents wanted to do that same thing, and that didn't work out at all, so I think I would really just be following in their footsteps. So to answer your question, I guess because of that and because I have plenty of other issues to worry about at the moment, I don't really worry over my perpetual single-ness.

^^ *nods* Your nod is most appreciated.

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Adoption?

^^ Heh good idea but not an easy one. Orphan care organisations usually wouldn't let single people (and especially single men) to adopt one of their orphans , they would always prefer any couple over any man.


And I can't adopt, because , legally, I am "Muslim" . But if I ever get desperate for parenthood , then I would legally "convert" to "Christian" .

Being a parent is not something I desire any more. In fact it almost scares me to think that if I were to have kids they would probably not be as well behaved as I am (I am being honest here, not narcissistic). Having to worry about raising a kid is not something I ever want to stress over, no matter how rewarding motherhood/fatherhood can be.

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You can't adopt because you're Muslim? That's just wrong.

Anyway, yes, I have had that thought many times in the past. I'd like a child without having the "burden" of being in a relationship, but I also know that I would be making things extremely difficult for myself! I do have very supportive parents, though, so if it ever happened, I wouldn't be completely alone. In the meantime, I have little cousins who I absolutely adore and get to see quite often.

Well, I don't know what adoption is like in Lebanon, but I'm sorry if they won't let you adopt. Speaking as an adoptive parent, it is a beautiful thing, and the best decision I ever made. Maybe you should think about relocating to the States? The laws regulating adoption are much less restrictive here.

Maybe you could try joining a big brother program or something. It's not the same as being a parent but it might be really good. I feel like a parent with teens online sometimes

I do want to start a family of my own. But not now. I'm young. I wanna do things before I settle. I gotta travel, maaaaaan!

Still, even in the US, agencies would rather let couples adopt, and, failing that, single mothers. Because men who can't get a woman and yet want kids must be some kind of pedophile

@Toad, honest hon - that's not true. If a person can pass the background check, can afford the fees, and is chosen by an agency and/or birth mother, he/she can adopt in the U.S. In most states (if not all), it's illegal to discriminate against a prospective adoptive parent based on gender. I know single adoptive dads, both straight and gay. Trust me, there are lots of kids who need good homes.

Even if adoption were possible, there's also the social aspect. Would you let me near your kids? Because most mothers outside of my church don't.